when choosing god parents ...

[Aly96]

A boy gets 2 god fathers and 1 god mother right ? And what should i look for in god parents ? Someone whos been there for me before and during my pregnancy and truly cares about him right ? And they have to be capable of taking care of a child right ? Im a ftm im not sure hot to choose the god parents . Soo many people want to be the god parents . I cant think of 2 guys that id want to be god parents  . Can i just do 2 god moms ?

[Aly96]

I udnerstand your husband but if you to think about it if worse comes to worse , im going to have a will too my biggest worry is my son god knows i dont want him going to just anybody .

[guerita209]

And you can have a family member be a godlarent my dad is my daughters god father and her godmothers are my 2 sisters

[MotherGooseGirl]

If you have a will, the state will honor who you say you want your baby to go to. Of you do not, family has the option to step in. If they don't they go to foster care. That's why I want a will, so I can be at peace knowing who has my child. But hubby says he doesn't want to think about dying. Go figure.

[guerita209]

I was raised the same way where girls have 2 godmothers and 1 god father and boys have 2 godfathers and 1 godmother. What godparents do is that when you pass and the father of the child pass who would trust the godparents to make sure your kid is being raised in the way of god. Making sure that they are doing as god would want it doesnt mean that the godparents get custody of the kid

[Aly96]

Yeah cuz i honestly dont trust anyone to raise my child but me and my man . And if it had to be someone i would want it to be a family member .

[blessedx2]

Thanks camrinj, I understand better now.

[danaexxx]

I think you should get family members like your sister,brother, cousins, etc. someone that you know will be there for your child if something where to happen to you and your husband.

[camerinj]

you state in your will who will take care of your children. godparents only have the responsibility to help your child grow closer to God. and there's only one godmother and one godfather...but you don't need them if you aren't baptizing your child into a church that requires them. I feel more people anymore do it just because that's what people used to do. don't think you have to stress yourself out over it.
but godparents are not legally connected to your child, so if something were to happen to the parents, children go to next of kin of no one is specified in a will (which is why they are so.very important!)

[blessedx2]

I'm not sure sorry. But I thought if something happens to both mom and dad, doesn't the child go to the next of kin? Do the courts take into consideration god parents if grandma and grandpa or aunties uncles or any family can take care of them? I would want my children to stay with the family they were raised with. Anybody know how that works can you name a family member as a god parent? Do the god parents actually get custody of your child? Sorry to add a question to your question I've always been curious.

[Aly96]

Bump . Does my child go to the godparents if something.were to happen to me ? Or does my.baby go to a family member ?

[Aly96]

And we planned that years ago , you know the whole bestfriend thing if we ever have kids blah blah blah .

[Aly96]

My friend has it stuck in her head that shes god momvcuz we planned each being the god parents of each others children but i dont trust her to raise my son if something were to happen to me. Not the way shes chosen to live her life and the decisions shes made . I dont even trust her to babysit tbh and i have my reasons . I just dont know how to tell her she cant be the god mom.  And im baptized anglican catholic but i was a baby and had no say in that . I dont consider myself catholic .

[OctoberBaby5]

Do you need godparents to baptize your baby? Im not religious at all so I dont know but my hubby is

[ash060115]

No child has to have godparents but if you want to christen the bby you need them.

[OctoberBaby5]

I have no idea how all that works vut do they HAVE to have godparents? I dont really have anyone who I could say has earned that position lol

[ash060115]

If your Catholic its one godfather one godmother. ..
choose people you'd trust to raise your bby if something happened you.