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1488319 tn?1359537694

wife not eating but is 7weeks 4days Pregnant

wife not eating but is 7weeks 4days Pregnant

(wife not eating but is 7weeks 4days Pregnant) and she has had  2 miscarriages in a year and a half.

Yesterday she had only dinner ( Chicken on a kaiser bun and fries from a restraint (8pm) and then I had to force her to eat a salad at like 12am - she's had t 2 glasses of milk and 1 glass of orange juice and no water. 

The other day almost the same thing as well. 

She's getting pissed off at me because I'm getting pissed off at her for not eating much (do I have a right to be pissed off?) as this is also my baby and I don't want anything to happen to it.. She's already have had miscarried twice before.

She's also going to bed late like  4 am then waking up at 10am I'm getting real pissed as we don't know what caused the last 2 miscarriages they did however find a septum of the uterus but her dr said she could still carry to full term so we don't really know what caused the last 2. We had an appointment with a specialist for 3 weeks ago to talk to her about removing the septum but we found out she was Pregnant again so removing the septum was a no go and we both talked and said we wanted to wait this one out to see if this pregnancy is viable. 

I'm just about to pack and leave as I don't know what to do anymore. Now I love my wife so much she's my half that makes me whole but I can't just sit there doing nothing and not try to eat healthy.


We where not really eating healthy during the last 2 misscaridges so I said for us to do so.  So what am I to do?? I'm in a jam because I love my wife but the same time I love my inborn child.


P.s. Sorry about the spelling and grammar as it's 5am and have not had sleep yet and been working off of 5 hrs sleep in the last 3 days as this issue is really bugging me.
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1488319 tn?1359537694
Thank you everyone who replied. I finally got sleep. The reassurance from everyone helped. The last miscarriage was only 27 weeks ago and her cousin got pregnant the same time. 

She said she does not vomit but is nauseous all the time and when she eats so does not eat a lot. She does take prenatals  and her doc has her on 4mg of folic acid. 

I would still like to see her eat a bit more though will not stress her over it.
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889551 tn?1416184483
At this point as long as she's still drinking and taking prenatals (although I took flintstones bc  couldn't take my prenatals) then her and baby should be okay. I had a miscarriage and when I got pregnant with my daughter I was terrifed and on pins and needles the whole time and I felt like I had to be strong for my husband. I bled my entire first trimester and had severe hyperemesis gravidarum (morning sickness) that continued until after I delivered. I couldn't eat and was always throwing up. I was hospitalized several times for it. I only gained 10 pounds during my pregnancy and my husband was supportive. He wasn't trying to force feed me. If he had I probably would have told him to shove it. lol. My point here is that the baby will get what it needs and if anyone is going to be sick from her lack of food...it's her. Her body is going to go without, not baby.

Also, I had weeks where I suffered from insomnia and couldn't sleep...and other weeks I couldn't stay awake. Its totally normal. I'm sorry, and I know you love your life or you wouldn't be concerned...but you need to try to understand how she feels.
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372900 tn?1315512302
First of all, don't harp on her so much to eat.  When a pg woman can't eat they CAN'T eat.  There is nothing worse than a husband harping on you (seeing as she's a grown woman and can take care of herself) when you don't feel good.  

As long as she's staying hydrated everything will be fine.  There is absolutely no harm being done to the baby.  Believe me.  The baby is taken all it needs from her even if she's not eating and will be fine (as long as your wife is taking her prenatals).  She does need to try and drink more water.  Maybe adding some lemon or those drink packets to it will help.  When I wasn't hungry I found that the pink lemonade packets really helped settle my stomach and get water into me.  (I hate water.)
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I agree with all the above posters, from the time I found out I was pregnant for my 3rd I couldn't eat I didn't like the small or taste of much...and I didn't sleep much either...You have to remember her body is going though a huge change...She is fine as is the baby...You can't stress her out or get mad at her over something she has no control...You need to step back and try to see her point of view on everything...Like everyone else says as long as she is taking her vitamins and a doctor hasn't said anything...Don't stress you are not helping yourself out, your wife or the baby...Enjoy the pregnancy...Good Luck!
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1460967 tn?1512401138
I agree!! Although nutrition is very important baby is so tiny and needs very little and will get this from mom regardless of how much she is eating.....most important thing is she needs to be taking her prenatal vitamins! Folic acid is essential in the first trimester especially to help prevent neural tube defects!  Be patient and make sure she stays hydrated especially if she is vomiting....it can be anything not necessarily water, whatever she can tolerate! Good luck!!
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938326 tn?1300878804
I agree with the poster above. Although, I see your concern. I had difficulties eating throughout this whole pregnancy aswell. My hubby was onstantly on me about eating, and yes, it made it even harder on me. He also seemed to think I needed to eat for 2 and my portions had to be doubled, not the case. Her calorie intake should increase. Is she taking her vitamins? It is very important that she takes her prenatals if she is unable to nurouish herself accordingly, even after when her appetitie is back. Try to be patient with her, the stress isnt good for you, her or baby. In a few months time hopefully you;ll see a big change and you wont be able to keep the cupboards full.
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1488319 tn?1359537694
Thanks for the reply..

I did not say that the last two miscarriages was due to her.. I was just saying we don't know what happened with the last 2 it's just really frustrating and heart breaking to Lose someone you love that you never really knew.

So I have nothing to worry about then? So I should stop stressing?
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1488319 tn?1359537694
Thanks for the reply..

I did not say that the last two miscarriages was due to her.. I was just saying we don't know what happened with the last 2 it's just really frustrating and heart breaking to Lose someone you love that you never really knew.

So I have nothing to worry about then? So I should stop stressing?
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1420648 tn?1295809833
Nothing your wife did was the cause for the last 2 miscarriages.

Also when I was pregnant I was eating one meal a day for about 15 weeks. It's normal to loose your appetite during pregnancy! She will get it back but I think if you keep trying to force food on her it will put her off more.

I think you need to stop fussing around her too, she will be worried sick about loosing this baby too any one with 2 prvious losses would be, so try and just make her relax and ease her mind alittle
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