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20873538 tn?1556130793

Fiance cheated with a hooker TWICE, WOULD YOU STAY?

So years ago we would talk about our sexual expectations or wants we commonly wanted threesomes together he had already tried it I had not.

No mind you this whole time we were smoking crystal meth enjoying each other I mean like no boundaries I loved her when she loves me so let's enjoy it at least that's how I felt until, I realized she was on Craigslist looking for threesomes extremely avidly and energetic graphic just not my style.

Since I was included in this as I requested that he come down on that and let's focus on the amazing thing we are building until wedding night ultimate fun. I was pregnant at the time so I guess he didn't want to stress me out or anything so he agreed no problem, and all of the sexually graphic offers and eager replying through the Craigslist ads just"disappeared"

Whew... so as the relationship progresses are well his sexual desire that I turned them on to becomes more acted on..or whenever the drugs were involved he always asked for the anal play over my ***** my *** anyting all while watching strap-on porn mind you.

One day when he was at work I was cleaning my laptop and I found cookies or cashed links or the URL , it looks on to me giving that everything I went on my laptop had a full URL not a piece of bulshit. So I immediately found out what it was and it was Craigslist ads, email logins, everything somebody sneaky would have tried to hide. I confront him immediately and he tells me it's the threesomes and he's never stopped looking for them even if you have to do it behind my back acting like I was still a part of it, "but that's it never nothing more" he declared extremely upset and emotional. Now I  obviously had issues with all of the salacious and sexually geared conversations over the years I having an extremely hard time believing so we fought hard even treated me like I was the one who was making this problem worse he would get loud and yell leave comeback very dramatic. I stayed and I just that this part was my detriment but I started to Snoop and the behavior privately in our bedroom continued drugs and his sexually satisfying acts over mine.


I was raising a baby so this is why I so I was allowing myself to be so blinded and ******* dumb!


So now we have moved and the behavior privately has come down so to say but not the arguing in turmoil it has brought disregarding my issues with what I found with his online infidelity treating me like I was crazy and extremely nosey for "digging and finding sand" one his favorite terms.

Meanwhile we have already kind of been somewhat distant yet still close to each other, like sleeping in the living room things like that every now and then but still everybody outwardly looking in thought we were perfect. And given the fact that he was extremely great father hard worker just overall very likeable to everyone in my family really enjoyed him. I need to work. So I become just engrossed in it always at work late hours legit stuff I found condoms in my center console one night coming home my world shattered but I give him a call and ask what's going on his response was "oh well" but my son was right next to him maybe you didn't want to pressure it on in front. So I ask what's going on and he tells me he has been cheating but only with two hookers and it was only head and he couldn't get it hard bulshit on top of the ******** on top of retarded *** wasted time I'm still giving him a chance though what should I do I'm going crazy so unhappy not sexually satisfied in years didn't even realize that until recently what is a 30 year-old woman to do?
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134578 tn?1642048000
You have a job? Does it pay for you and would it pay for your child?

If you leave him, you have to tell your family what is going on, your keeping the facade going will bite you if you don't.

Is he your husband or your fiance? Leaving would be easier if he were just a fiance, divorce takes lawyers.

Get your stuff together with a counselor. You've been treated badly and have let it happen, find out why. Then get the child-support stuff done with a lawyer. Then when you find your backbone, it's time to go.
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973741 tn?1342342773
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I'm sorry to read this.  I know when we have a baby involved together, it makes it even harder to leave.  He doesn't sound super trustworthy.  Or very sensitive to your feelings.  If there was no child involved, I'd tell you to leave immediately.  But I think if I were you, I'd have a straight forward with exactly what your expectations are and your boundaries and ask if he can live up to that.  And that if he can't, this won't work. Then everyone is on the same page.  Don't just keep putting up with it thinking it will change.  

I really feel for you.  hugs
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495284 tn?1333894042
Put down the drugs and see this relationship as it really is.
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