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So a friend was joking around with me

He called me a son of a b**ch a few times and I responded each time with something like "That's such a cheesy name." Mind you I love my mom too. The thing is, I took a sociology class where the teacher talked about how even putting women down as a joke (eg you hit like a girl) can be going too far. She also mentioned that if I don't say anything, I'm encouraging it. I told the friend a couple weeks ago how I prefer not to be called a son of a b**ch even as a joke and he said ok. Then again, if he really was trying to bully me, he would have said that my mom is a b**ch. What do I do should this happen again? How would these solutions sound:
1)He was only kidding, so is it ok that I call him something vulgar back?
2)Mention how he said he wouldn't say that again?
Also, am i sounding cowardly at all? It's only joking and I would prefer not to make something big out of this.
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"Son of a *****" is not referring to your mother as one. I think you are taking this a little too close to home.
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2)remind Him He said He wouldn't use that term again.  It IS objectionable and a pretty poor way to joke as far as I'm concerned.  I wouldn't hesitate to tell Him so and if He's offended that You're offended, I would find a new friend with nicer ways to 'joke'.  I don't think that's 'joking' - I think it's insulting and to say it's a 'joke' makes HIM the coward.

I don't think YOU would sound 'cowardly' at all but rather a Man who has standards and principles and is prepared to make a statement regarding something You object to.  That's an exercise of strength(firm), not weakness(coward).




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