Adderall

[Jamiejane123]

My other half I have been with for 14 years take adderall and he will search porn sites and tries tell me that he has found me in them and that I have a whole bunch of social media things that I don’t have. Then will tell me I have slept with everyone he knows and makes up everything and I work and then he will tell me I’m not really at work and I know where the cameras are so I don’t get seen on camera banging someone. I’m going crazy cuz I can only defend myself so much and I don’t want to be a prisoner in my own home

[Nighthawk61]

Oh my, this sounds like paranoid schizphrenia at the very least. If a person refuses to get medical help and therapy for issues, you are simply enabling him to continue doing what he's done in the past. He's obviously not good for you, but if you stay and enable this action on his part, you are not good for him either.

[Nighthawk61]

There is also a chance that if you give him no other choice but to get help or you leave, he may surprise you and get the help.  The help, may take time. It's not necessary for you to live with him while he initiates getting the help he needs. You could stay with friends, family, while he pushes himself to find and take help. You could stay monogamous for a time , a trial separation til he get's help. If he is given these choices, you are telling him that you are supporting him. You are being a good partner. If he chooses not to comply, you have your answer as to whether you should be supporting him any further.

[Nighthawk61]

This is currently a co=dependent relationship and you may find help for yourself by studying co-dependency. There are also co-dependency groups (CODA) online, where you'll find support for yourself going through this.

[Nighthawk61]

If you love someone set them free, if they come back, they're yours, if not they never were - comes to mind.

[TTinKKerBBell]

This is abusive behavior.  Abuse can be verbal and emotional as well as physical and You should not tolerate this in Your life.  You say You have been together for 14 years.   How long has He been making these accusations ??  Which one of You is taking medication and are You suggesting this is related somehow to adderall ??  Regardless, of who's taking medication, it is not acceptable for Him to accuse You in this way and You don't have to tolerate this abuse.  I know it's not easy to walk away from such a long term relationship but sometimes it's the necessary thing to do  - unless He's willing to realize He has issues and is willing to get counseling.
Good Luck

[specialmom]

I agree.  And we date for a reason. We are supposed to judge the people we date to see if we would want to take the relationship to the next level.  This is one that you clearly should not.  I'd go ahead and cut your losses and find a more stable guy.  good luck

[Chima7]

He sounds like a total nutjob. This is no way for you to live. Are you able to get away from him? Do you have somewhere else to go? Friends or family? You can't stay with him. There is definitely something very, very wrong with him mentally and this is not something that you can fix. This relationship honestly can't continue and you need to get as far away from him as soon as possible.