Am I Too Attached Too Early

[Dani19912505]

Recently, I got out of a relationship because I was unhappy. Shortly after, I met a guy through a close friend and I found myself falling for him after day one. It has been two months in and we are still not official, but he tells me how much he likes me and at some point wants to be officially dating. I find myself telling him if we weren't talking, I'd most likely be living in another state doing something else with school or work. When he talks about what he'd be doing, he tells me "I'm letting you know now, if I decide to move somewhere, I am going to do it regardless if we are together." Am I messing up by giving him priority over moving somewhere else if the opportunity came  up? I really like this guy and have never been happier in a relationship than how I am now. Am I too attached too soon in this relationship?

Help!

[Dani19912505]

Thank you everyone for your comments. I decided to ask this same question to the guy to figure out what page he was on and we finally came to a clear understanding of everything. I don't understand why it is so hard for guys to express their feelings through words. It is almost like they try, but do not understand that really they are leaving us guessing

[Londres70]

Agree with AB, SM and Tink....absolutely.

I don't see a problem with liking this guy, but he shouldn't be your "whole world" and you definitely shouldn't be using him as a determining factor whether you stay in a town or leave.

YOU should be the priority, not him.    

"When he talks about what he'd be doing, he tells me "I'm letting you know now, if I decide to move somewhere, I am going to do it regardless if we are together."........It's obvious he is making himself the priority as you should too.  

[specialmom]

Yep, too attached too soon.  I've never 'talked' to someone for two months without dating them if they liked me in that way and I them.  I'm not sure I understand that.  

Anyway, yes absolutely you are messing up by making someone you are really just talking too over where to go for work and opportunity.  If I had a dollar for every serious crush I've had in my lifetime . . .  I'd be able to buy myself something nice.  Crushes come and go.

follow the job.  good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

Gotta agree with Tinker that you are jumping, not falling.  You weren't very long from a different relationship, and suddenly presto, Mister Perfect walks into your life?  Mister He Looks OK Because I Don't Want to Be Alone, more like.  Why not strike out on your own, go to that new town, set up a satisfactory life for yourself complete with cute apartment that you decorate to your own taste and peaceful evenings reading or fun evenings with new work friends?  See how you like you, by yourself, and find your boundaries?  Otherwise, you're going right down the same road that leads to breaking off a relationship because you just aren't happy.  How well are you able to sort your need (to not be solo) from genuine interest in a new guy?  It just sounds like he walked in when you needed someone, and you glommed on.  Try to relax the grip and do what makes YOU happy, for you.

[TTinKKerBBell]

Yes, I think You are 'feeling' too attached too soon.

Love isn't a "feeling", it isn't as simple as a 'feeling'.  Love grows and builds and takes time.

You say You "found YourSelf falling for Him after day one".  That doesn't happen in one day - in one day, it's more a matter of You are 'jumping'....not 'falling'.

He's being very clear - at "some point" he wants to be "officially dating".  Well, that "point" isn't "officially" here for Him yet

You say You'd be living in another state if You weren't "talking" to Him and He says if He decides to move somewhere, He's going regardless if You are together.

It appears to me that answers Your question.  

You shouldn't be 'falling' for anyone.  Just go on with Your life and when You've CHOSEN the right partner for YourSelf, You won't have to ask this question.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, his statement about moving with regardless if you were together does not really show hes head over heals about you. I think this is more of you having feeling about him.
Just dont let this turn into a chasing game as you will be hurt in the end. When 2 people fall madly in love they will go everywhere together, if only one has this intensity, that one will only be following the other everywhere in an ongoing attempt to win them over.