in need of some woman advise.

[ashh_1113]

Dont exactly know how to go about this
Last week i went through my boufriends profile what hes been searching etc well i found hes been searching up naked girls since October. i confronted him about it he apologized and evrything he said it wouldnt hapoen again. the reason he did it is because i havent been in the mood for awhile im 20weeks pregnant i feel really gross and uncomfortable with myself and thats the reason why. well he knows im self cotious and still did it. ive yried forgiving but it really bothers me. nd erks me nd wont leave my mind -.- anyone go through this?

[Londres70]

Well.....if this is the only thing that happened then I would say you need to try to get past this, hormones or no hormones.  Since the situation just happened it might take some time, but I think it is possible to get through this especially if you think he is genuine with his apology.

If you are aware your hormones and emotions are all over the board you might want to be extra caution and more methodical about thinking something through BEFORE you say or do something that you will regret.  

Try putting your focus on the good of the relationship and your baby on the way.  

Whether he will or won't do this again.......only time will tell, however, I wouldn't go snooping through his profiles, etc.   If you have to do all that  then I would consider the relationship is lacking trust which isn't good.  Without trust you have NO relationship.  

[Nighthawk61]

Many good marriages have survived Playboy magazine's and now the internet. It's great that you didn't find anything that suggested contact of any kind. I don't know how to get over this as i haven't experienced it, but I have experienced infidelity. My husband told me when I was suffering from a back injury that he had been unfaithful and contacted a sex trade worker. I could tell by his voice and body language, that he was seriously remorseful, and I trusted him that he wouldn't do it again. Only you can tell if he's legitimately remorseful though, or whether you can trust him at his word that he'll stop doing it. The fact that he did it at all, is what your question addresses though, and whether you can get by it.  I don't know when it happened, but it takes months, to get over betrayal. If I were you, and this was something that was not acceptable, I would start to put away money to leave, and if it happens again, or you cannot get over it happening at all, leave and start again.

[ashh_1113]

And that wasnt really his excus there was alot said.

[ashh_1113]

And that wasnt really his excus there was alot said.

[ashh_1113]

I know how it sounds. and no no problems like this ever before in the past 5 years. and well with this pregnancy i have alot of diff issues lol so i guess my selfcatiousness leads me more to not trusting him. :/ and we were more close in our relationship before. with this pregnancy my feelings and moods ect have been totally different so its distant us

[Londres70]

"the reason he did it is because i havent been in the mood for awhile im 20weeks pregnant......"    Is this the excuse he gave you?  Seems like all the blame was put on you.......as if you left him "0" choice.  I find the excuse insulting on your behalf.  

Searching through his profile?  Do you not trust him?

Going through someone's profile and someone checking out naked girls......none of this sounds like a trusting, respectful relationship.  

Any problems with the relationship BEFORE this?