Make sure you are telling your therapist the "whole" story. Make sure she knows what this guy has done, what he has said, and how you feel about all of it.
I think I am addicted to him, maybe because he was my first I don't know. I will talk to my therapist about this when I see her tomorrow.
Thank you
He sounds icky, frankly. Talk to a counselor and find out what the heck the magnetic draw is to this guy. Nobody should curse you out and ignore you for months and then get rewarded with "I love you." You need to have some pride even if you still have a soft spot for him. Don't give away your power.
I think this ex is nothing but bad news. You already know the terrible things he is capable of saying and doing. I wouldn't go back unless you love or like drama.
I would just assume move on with the new guy; he is treating you well for now.
I have loved two men in my past, but in the end they were not the best thing for me. In other words, just because you love someone doesn't mean you should be with them if they aren't a positive influence on you.
Wish him well and move on. Plus, you don't know what other mess he has gotten into since you haven't spoken or seen him in a while.
Listen, I do not know what consequences he originally was running away from, but there are a new set of consequences he needs to deal with. That is the fact that he treated you the way he did, and now expect you to come back..... he's going to use you.... that's what he does.
As Londres said above, there's no telling what this guy has gotten himself into since he left. Give this new guy a shot. He treats you right, and you deserve that.... don't you?