Disrespect

[Notyoungenough]

Is it me , or is it ok for husbands to be members of tagged , back page, dating sites, etc. ? Oh and then say it's just for entertainment

[Londres70]

And, what is his definition of "entertainment?"

[Londres70]

Is he working or is he doing this after working hours?  Was he doing this behind your back?

Sometimes people do this out of boredom, curiousity or just to fill time.  I do know tagged offers other people to game with along with looking for friends or a partner.  Why he is a member on those other sites is suspicious.

So, after he told you "it's just for entertainment" is he still a member on these sites?  

Is there anything else that is or that was going on in your marriage?

  

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Ugh, sorry if you stumbled upon something upsetting in your husband's computer or phone.  I will say that the internet sure does make for the ability to act on our CURIOSITY.  This doesn't always mean anyone is doing something truly.  If he is just looking---  and it's not a frequent thing, then I'd not blow a gasket over it.  If he has interaction in which you feel that he wants to date someone else . . .  well, clearly a problem.  I know that I get these weird messages that go to my spam folder for dating sites.  I've been married a long time.  ha ha.

So, I'd investigate further rather than just jumping to conclusions.  

If you do feel he is cheating or on the fringe of it by communicating with real live other women,  then I agree---  communicate your boundary and consider counseling.  good luck

[Nighthawk61]

Nope, it sure wouldn't be okay for me. I would seriously be looking closely at all aspects of the entire relationship and see if there were red flags missed and issues that have been put on the back burner rather than to address them, have caused a rift in the relationship. There is nothing innocent about seeking any other attention from women. You cannot ever give or get enough love from your partner. If he had any spare time, it should be spent in further developing your own relationship and getting to doing the things that we sometimes put on hold because we feel we are too busy with the business of day to day family life, especially if there are kids involved.

This could be as a result of unresolved marital issues/ or it could be as a result of your husband's character flaws; or a combination of both.

Have you and your husband attended couple's counseling before? Are there issues in your marriage that need working on?

[Kayannaboo]

It is not okay. Dating sites are for persons who are single and seeking a partner. It is certainly NOT for persons who are already in a relationship let alone married. I do not believe in the whole "innocently looking" either. The moment you sign up, it means you have an intention to meet someone and if you are "just looking", it is not innocent. Looking leads to thinking and thinking leads to doing.....not cool.

Anna

[clement4now]

Unless you've told him that it's okay to play, than I would consider this a problem that needs to be addressed.
If you feel betrayed, speak up, and let him know that this isn't acceptable in your marriage. Dating sites are for people who make themselves available to anyone & everybody...

[RockRose]

Do you mean he actually writes to other members and flirts or even meets up?  No,  that's definitely not okay.

I will say,  I do breeze through Craigs list personals just for the pure humor value of it,  but NEVER respond.

Is that what he's doing?