Hey I'm a 22 year old white, gay male attending a state university. So here's my question/concern/rant... Does someone's sexual past matter? I was raised in a pretty southern conservative catholic environment (not easy being a homo) and have somehow developed the irrational idea that sex is important between two people who are serious about one another.. I'm not even talking marriage, just a monogamous relationship. Well, trying to date over the past couple years, I have begun to realize my expectations are/were WAY too high... I'm a decent looking guy, in shape, etc. and work pretty hard in school (got into med school next year yay), but I have only had sex with two guys (each of whom I seriously dated). I have done other things with other people, yes, but even 3rd base is less than 10.. I've been single forever bc honestly, I'm busy with school and can't go to the bars all the time.. With online dating and "grindr", I have come to the notion (maybe false!?) that very very few gay men (at least the attractive ones) feel this way. Maybe a lot of it has to do with the southern stigma so the entire dating operation is already watered down, but the gay promiscuity stereotype may in fact, be true. From the closet "curious" frat guys to my out fairy friends, it is out of control. I know 3 couples who have been dating awhile (mad respect), but even some of them have had their "**** phase". Now, I'm the stuck up one that can't imagine dating a guy if his number is too high (this was a major problem in my second relationship where I was my 18 year old bf's 11th-ish). I just feel like there comes a point (its not a fine line) where it becomes disrespectful to the person you may be spending the rest of your life with, like at some point you are literally damaged goods. So now not only am I extremely single (which my friends call a prude waste bc I'm "hott") but pretty much any (attractive) guy I meet, even if ready to monogamously date, has double digits and it bothers me too much. So, I'm the one that loses. I'm honestly to the point where if I can't beat em, maybe I should strap on a condom and join em, or declare celibacy, or try being straight (would never work haha).. disclaimer: I may sound like a girl here, but I'm relatively masculine... Wow that was long, sorry.