Dreaming of your ex? Does it mean you are supposed to be with them still?

[specialmom]

Just a general question---  if you continue to dream about an ex, do you think that means that you should reconnect with this person or ultimately eventually be back with them?  How much stock do you put in dreams?

[Nighthawk61]

I dream about my exes quite often actually (who have passed) probably moreso than parents (who have passed). My dreams have a lot of action and scenery lots of geography animals and amongst that what i feel to be visits by my exes - meant to bring about a feeling of my acceptance that although there were challenges, the time  spent and the incidents that were impactful - good bad or indifferent - have nonetheless kept us connected throughout the years - I have had lots of visits from the other side of the veil so i feel that the dreams and the seeing and the hearing are all somewhat connected. So in answer to the question, do i feel this means we should be together - i guess i already do feel like we are together -  in spirit - Strange ? i know.. haha Apparently par for the course for a Pisces

[AnnieBrooke]

Never about ex's, when I'm done with a guy I'm done. lol But very often about houses I once lived in, so, ex-houses not ex-boyfriends. When my parents divorced (I was in my early 20s) I had super sad dreams about the house I grew up in for YEARS. I'm sure in the dream it represented the happy family times of yore that was gone. And just last night I dreamed about owning a house in the town where I was in law school (where I did indeed own a cute little house, but the one in the dream was not a true representation of the actual house), and we were cleaning it out to leave it, and I told my husband I needed more time to get it cleaned out. This is definitely me feeling I have a bunch of stuff to sort out and deal with and there is just so much (in real life) and it's too boring or overwhelming to finish. An ex would be a dead issue (don't ask me if I dream about people I find cute presently!), but houses represent a live issue, usually either a yearning for something lost, or something my conscience is telling me I need to get done.

[specialmom]

I do dream of houses I lived in at one time too and especially the one before I got married.  (we tried living there together but the closet that was already mine didn't want his stuff in it so we had to start over in neutral territory . . .).  I'm usually trespassing in my dreams as the house is no longer mine and the current owners are on vacation.  And the kitchen is always a jacked up remodel than what it was.  Cause it was pretty cruddy when I lived there.  ha.  Anyway, yes, our dreams can take us back to a time like yours does (law school) and sort out things.  Interesting that it isn't really your true house you are dreaming of though.  

[AnnieBrooke]

The family house always was our real family house, with sometimes the exception that the new owner had added a low building at the back (the lot sloped downhill, so, not obvious from the outside front). Like your dreams, we were always trespassing, we were in the house but had to get out before the new owners showed up and found us there. I took this trespassing stuff as my mind saying I was supposed to be "over it," but that I couldn't help revisiting the beloved prior status even so. It was a "I miss this but am not supposed to wish for it" dream.

The dreams of the family house stopped for me once my husband and I got a house I liked and then renovated it to a state I really liked. Maybe I finally put my emotional stakes in the ground in another place once I did that.

Don't know for sure why the law-school house is never the real one, in dreams of it. Possibly because I was satisfied with the real house, so there is nothing unfinished there to pop up in a dream, but still not entirely satisfied with the experience of law school.

[dominosarah]

My dreams are usually pretty goofy.  Last night my dreams were about tattoos.  In my dream i had gotten this god awful tattoo on my leg.  It was a pink ice cream cone, just hideous!  Now i am getting another tattoo here shortly but this one will be on my arm!  Once in awhile i will dream about my parents.  They are always younger and my mom can walk again.  I can never touch them. same when i have dreamed about Pooh(my 1st beagle).  She is running and playing but i can never touch her either.  Seems i have a "touch" issue!

As for your original question.....I dont dream about my exes very often but when i do it is rather disturbing.  We are never together, they just seem to appear, usually in places i dont recognize.  I am always grateful when i wake in the morning knowing it was just a bad dream.  I had best not have one tonight either now that we talked about it!!  lol

[specialmom]

Parent dreams.  Mine can be brutal.  My mom died very unexpectedly and at a young age.  It must have haunted me as it certainly did my dreams.  In my dreams for years, it would be like forever and she was missing and then I'd find her and be so excited but she'd be dying and trying to get away from me like she didn't want to be with me OR I'd have her number and know she was there but she would not answer because she'd be off doing something that she could die from (that one is hard to explain but risky things that were killing her like being sober and then injecting drugs) or I'd be in a big house that my parents lived in with me and I'd go from room to room looking for them but was alone.  My gosh, those dreams were like torture.  I had them for years.  They've stopped.  I guess the long passage of time since my mother's death maybe has finally separated us further.  I had a wise person tell me once that I probably was not at peace with her death and it was my mind's way of trying to work something out.  Never found peace but time does dull the pain.  Whew, that's some fun stuff.  lol

[specialmom]

I was thinking of getting a tattoo.  I was thinking a big brown mole right square on my forehead with a big red X over it.

[AnnieBrooke]

This was a dream, or are you talking about putting a red X over that real pesky mole on your forehead? lol