My boyfriend and I split up on Jan the 17th. It was a mutual split and we ended the relationship due to my ill health and him being unable to understand what I have to do to get well again.
We were together for just under 12 years and we rented an apartment together. We had no children.
I haven't been tearful, upset, angry or sad, in fact I got on with my new home with my parents very well. I help my mum who is disabled around the house and I do shopping for them. I also look better, have bought a new car and am looking forward to starting a new career in health care.
2 weeks ago I texted my ex to tell him that I still had a discount card that he might have needed. He said it was fine in that he didn't need it and he asked me how I was. We had a friendly conversation through texts and he emailed me saying he wants us to be best friends because we have always gotten on so well. He even sent me emails when I didn't reply to his, and he told me his mum has been calling him twice a day to see if he's okay.
I called him during the weekend and told him how much better I feel and in the middle of the phone call he said he was sorry for not supporting me and I thought that seeing as it's my birthday soon and my family are taking me out somewhere nice it wouldn't hurt to ask him out for a drink in a cafe in town as friends. He said he'd like to do that and my mum and dad are now planning to make me pretty for that day so that I would meet my ex to in their words let him know what he's lost.
I'd like to think my family are well intentioned and they have my best interests at heart but I don't understand why they're planning to make me look nice and I'm actually nervous. Any ideas as to what I should do?