July, you're so easy. You are her comfort zone. And she can go to it when ever she feels like it.....because she can. Plain and simple. I do it all the time.
I choose to be single mostly because I can have what I want. And guys like you are the ones I will target because you give it. And when yall overwhelm me with too much attention that I'm not asking for.........I give the ole "i need space" line.
You're not the one, sorry.
It'll take time to get over her, but you have definitely learned from it. That's the positive thing.
Yes you are pretty much right on! Yesterday she told me to move on and forget about her so there is nothing else I can do. You see she was raised by her mother who was always in abusive relationships and had to witness that through her childhood then when she was 14 she got in a relationship with was turned out to be a controlling, drug dealing, addict who cheated on her etc. That lasted 4 years. Then she met me after they broke up for good. We hit it off from the beginning on so many levels. She was always hesitant jumping into another relationship but we had such a strong connection that it was hard not to. She tried fighting this idea of needing time to find herself the whole relationship i think and now she is holding strong... At least I know that so i can move on now.
It's so easy to blame people's childhood's on how they act in their current relationships but it's not your job to see why she did what she did. But if that's what you need to gain closure than that's what you need. I hope you can move on. One day she will realize what she had lost and she will most likely come back. Hopefully, you will have already moved on and won't fall for it.
She wants you to hang around and let her do what she wants to do? That is not love. I would highly suggest you end your torment and quit allowing yourself to be manipulated by her. Wanting to have fun, live with the girls, go on trips and not have you interfere with it is very selfish and not the actions of a woman in love. She sounds like a great manipulator and hey! You played right along! She set her priorities, its time you did the same.
Sad to say, that the one's that do target men like you...also, end up alone in the long run.
So an update. This last weekend she text me "I ruined us didn't I" so I replied that she hadn't and she said that she felt so stupid to not be ready for us so I called thinking that she was sorry. She came over to talk and told me how she wishes we could go back to the way things were and how she wishes this was just a bad dream and then she went on to tell me that she was still talking to that guy except now more and plus they are sleeping together now. WTF is wrong with this girl.