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Going dutch or man pays?

Have we evolved or do women still expect men to pay on dates?  What do you think?
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495284 tn?1333894042
Yes they still do open car doors for women!  I see many elderly couples at the hardware store and i just love them!  One couple are always holding hands and he opens the car door for her.  They are so cute walking hand in hand out to the parking lot(they are in their upper 80's)  Most of the elderly men help their wives walking to the parking lot.  I also have noticed the amount of respect the men have for their wives.  You dont hear them bashing them even when the wives have sent them back in for getting the wrong item!!  The younger guys not so much.  I have learned so much from that age group.
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495284 tn?1333894042
Here are my thoughts on equality....If i can do a job just as good as a man we should be paid the same and vice versa. When it comes to opening doors i hold the door for the elderly, mom's with babies or toddlers, physically handicapped people etc.  I always say Thank You if someone has held the door for me.  

I remember back in the day when a guy could compliment a woman on a nice dress she had on.  Noone found it offensive like they do now.    
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People find compliments offensive now?  I don't get a lot  . . . so wouldn't know.  LOL  But being polite and complimenting on something should never go out of style . . .  but in this day and age, it may.

I also hold doors and say thank you when someone does for me too.  

Do men still open a car door for women?  
4522800 tn?1470325834
Well, I think for me I might share a bit after a few dates. Like, this one is on me..but if he refused and insisted he pays, that would look really good in my eyes. When my Hub & I go out, (once in a great while) I will try to pay and he tells me NO, he makes more money then I do and to keep it for things I need. OK with me!
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Got it!  I know when I was working, I was in a position of I -could pay- but also enjoyed what I felt like was being treated like a lady.  For the most part, I'm traditional in my values though.  
4522800 tn?1470325834
I do think they should pay too..(old school for sure). When one goes out on a date, that would be a red flag right there if they want the women to pay. You might be going on this date to see if he is Mr. right and if I had to pay then I would know his character if I had to pay.  There could be situation that one agreed on the "who pays process". Been married going on 33 now, however, if I was out there dating I would expect the man to pay for sure.
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Every time or just initially?
973741 tn?1342342773
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I had a friend who refused to pay EVER while dating.  I wasn't like that but at times I was probably too generous and had a couple of guys take advantage.  I like old style traditions and values . . .  it was nice when I dated someone who believed in chivalry.  And buying.  haha
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I thought women wanted equality? I opened a door for a woman recently. Instead of saying thank you all I got was the 1000 yard glare. In this day and age a woman needs to let you know.
I actually think this is a really great point and interesting.  You are right.  In this day and age, how do you know if a woman is traditional in her expectations of a man or more of an equality person?  You do sort of have to inquirer.  If directly, that has to be a bit awkward but I guess it is a good conversation starter on an early date.  A man should probably try to pay on first dates.  But that is interesting as the times have changed and it must be hard to be in the male role to know what to do!
I agree.  You are damned if you do and damned if you dont being a male now.
495284 tn?1333894042
I'm still old school.  He is going to pay!
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I like your style.  :>)  
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