Help, I honestly don't know what to do anymore :\

[bibigirl12_10]

My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for the past 3, going on 4 years. He's my first love, my first kiss, my first everything and I am so in love with him and just so attached to him. When we broke up the last time (August of 2009) he moved to Kansas from Colorado (where we originally live) to live with his sister and go to college. I had moved on and so did he, I got into a relationship as did he, we hadn't talked for a year until last December (2010) when my ex and I had broken up. He moved back to Colorado from Kansas to come back to live with his parents and continue his college out here. We decided to give our relationship another shot and got back together in April of this year (2011). Everything seemed perfect and I hadn't been that happy for a long time. In June (2011) he informed me that he might have gotten his ex girlfriend in Kansas pregnant and that completely destroyed me. He got a DNA test done and is waiting for the results. When he found out about this, the baby was already born (3 months old I believe) and he told me that they were together from June 2010 to July 2010 and I have been trying so hard to convince myself it isn't his baby. Like I said, I am so attached to him, so in love with him but that is all I think about anymore, is our future and that kid. I just don't know what to do anymore, I don't know if I should break up with him, and if I do I don't know how to cope with it or how to do it. He knows I'm hurt, and it hurts him to know I'm so hurt about this but I can't seem to let him go. I need help :\

[TTinKKerBBell]

I totally agree with specialmom on everything She says here.

I would add  - You must remember You were broken up at the time and, by Your own account, You had both "moved on".  ANYTIME there is a sexual relationship between a Man and a Woman there is ALWAYS potential for a pregnancy as there is a percentage of failure with ANY birth control method.  Sex can = a baby at almost any time!!

At the time this occured, He had no obligation to You - but if He's now a Father, He DOES have an obligation to the Baby.

Things don't always turn out the way We want but We DO have to stand up to our Responsibilities.  I too wish You luck.

[specialmom]

I'll be honest.  Don't get mad-------  but your response to this is a bit insensitive to him and childish overall.  While you two were NOT dating, he may have impregnated his girlfriend.  Okay------ that is a bummer but what is all of this hurt over?  I don't get that.  You were not together at the time so I would treat this like any other situation of a possible child from a previous relationship.  

If you don't think you can handle a step child or that your boyfriend would have a huge responsibility in his life if he is the father-----  then, yes.  Move on.  You wouldn't be the first to realize you couldn't handle that.  It isn't a sin to say you have boundaries and a man with kids from a prior relationship isn't your cup of tea.  

Listen, if I had found out that I might have a child and my partner supposedly loved me-----  I'd want their support and not their making the situation all about them.  

I'm sure you are disappointed that this may complicate the situation-----  but you must ask yourself if you are really being a good girlfriend right now.  good luck

[Londres70]

Just because the baby resembles your bf DOESN'T mean he is the father.

How would he know the results?  

There AREN'T any doubts with a DNA test.  

Wait and see what happens.  

[bibigirl12_10]

but he pretty much already knows the result, the baby looks just like him too and his ex is engaged to be married to another guy so just i don't know.

[Londres70]

I would wait and see what the results will be before "freaking out."  

Try to remain calm til you find out.  

Keep us posted on the outcome.  

[RockRose]

I don't know why you have to make this decision in the few days before he knows the paternity test results.  You will have much more information in like,  the next week.  

Wait for that before you decide to consider your options.

If he is the father,  back out.  He needs to be with his baby and the mother of his child. If he's not,  you can consider your options.  

You can stop all your efforts to convince  yourself he's not the father.  In a few days you'll know.