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It's my guy best friend birthday and I was plan on getting him a teddy bear with flowers and balloon is that gay ?
Agree with SM and AB about choosing better words to get your point acrossed. Perhaps there are posters here who are gay or lesbian and it probably wouldn't be ideal for them to read that someone is using the word "gay" in a negative connotation. Food for thought.
Giving a guy a teddy bear with flowers and balloons sounds too feminine. Those are things a guy may give his gf, not the other way around. Does he even like flowers and teddy bears? Think about what he enjoys and likes.
It obviously wouldn't be terrible if you gave your guy these things especially if he likes these things.
Giving a guy a teddy bear with flowers and balloons sounds too feminine. Those are things a guy may give his gf, not the other way around. Does he even like flowers and teddy bears? Think about what he enjoys and likes.
It obviously wouldn't be terrible if you gave your guy these things especially if he likes these things.
Just replace the teddy bare with a pair of dumbells to make it more macho maybe? Seriously, 'gay' doesn't play any role here, even gay guys wouldn't fancy giving a teddy bears.
Give him whatever you like! And happy b-day.
Give him whatever you like! And happy b-day.
If your friend likes those things I don't think it matters if a male or female gives it to him. It's a kind gift.
I didn't answer as though you were using "gay" in a negative way because you are registered on the site as a male, so I thought you might be asking if giving a teddy bear and etc. to a platonic male friend would be seen as a signal of gay interest.
If you are female and were using the word gay to mean ridiculous or lame, I agree with Specialmom that there are better ways to express disdain. I have a gay nephew and a lesbian sister, both strong and powerful people, please don't hurl a designation about them down as though it must automatically mean something negative. (It's like when a drill sergeant yells to his all-male platoon "All right, ladies, listen up --" why turn a word describing gender into an automatic insult? "Ladies" are bad? Don't think so.)
Anyway, back to the flowers, balloon and teddy bear, if you're hoping he'll get the hint that you like him and want to do something fun about it, hey, just send him a card with a warm note.
If you are female and were using the word gay to mean ridiculous or lame, I agree with Specialmom that there are better ways to express disdain. I have a gay nephew and a lesbian sister, both strong and powerful people, please don't hurl a designation about them down as though it must automatically mean something negative. (It's like when a drill sergeant yells to his all-male platoon "All right, ladies, listen up --" why turn a word describing gender into an automatic insult? "Ladies" are bad? Don't think so.)
Anyway, back to the flowers, balloon and teddy bear, if you're hoping he'll get the hint that you like him and want to do something fun about it, hey, just send him a card with a warm note.
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Well, let me say that I don't like when people use the word gay in a negative way like this.
I think giving a gift is twofold--- it's to be thoughtful. Do you really think he'd like this?
Second reason to give a gift to show you care regardless of what it is-- and you do accomplish that one with a teddy bear. However, it's not like he is going to put it on his bed and love on it. :>) I'd come up with a different gift. I made a guy cookies once and wrapped them in colored cellophane with a ribbon and you'd think I'd given him heaven. I'd maybe go more that route. good luck
I think giving a gift is twofold--- it's to be thoughtful. Do you really think he'd like this?
Second reason to give a gift to show you care regardless of what it is-- and you do accomplish that one with a teddy bear. However, it's not like he is going to put it on his bed and love on it. :>) I'd come up with a different gift. I made a guy cookies once and wrapped them in colored cellophane with a ribbon and you'd think I'd given him heaven. I'd maybe go more that route. good luck
Hi, i think its a bit feminine as not sure what he would do with the teddy bear!
If a guy gave that to a guy, it might look gay, but if a girl does that for a guy, she just looks like she digs him.
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