Highschool Sweethearts

[Emily1028]

Can you really find your true love in highschool or is it just considerd puppy love ?

[Londres70]

Shell921 and Specialmom make great points; agree totally.  

[shell921]

I married at age 28 and my husband was 36. We've been married over 22 years. I can tell you some of the boyfriends I had in high school and college were great for me at the time - but if I had married any of them I know I would now be divorced. Some people are mature and ready for marriage at age 18 but most are not.

[specialmom]

I think that is great.  I love a happy story and ending.  My parents married as teens and divorced 24 years later.  That is the thing . . .   I love it to all work out and maybe someone that has been married into their 40's and 50's after marrying as teens could give us some insight.  It's always happy the first 10 to 20 years . . .   well, not always.  But the issue of changing happens over time.  

But it doesn't mean it CAN'T or WON'T work out.  It just statistically doesn't often.  

good luck to all----  the point is to choose well and to be happy!!

[mrz12]

I met my boyfriend my junior yr in high school and we been 2gether ever since and we ere alwyz 2gether and never left each others side and I will say I never been so happy in my life and in dec we will b expectin our first baby :) I say nethin is possible

[praline23]

I started dating my husband when I was in 8th grade. I'm now 24 and have never been so happy :)

[shell921]

I also agree with Specialmom and Teko.  Nowadays people live longer than they did 100 years ago. 100 years ago the average lifespan was 50 years. So today if you get married at age 18 you have a LOT of years to be together. You change so much between age 18 & age 28 that it's best to wait until about age 27 or 28 to get married.

[Londres70]

Will agree with Specialmom and Teko.  

[teko]

Teenage years are meant for dating, discovering yourself, who you are and learning about people. Yes, sometimes a relationship from highschool works out for a life time but this is more the exception than the rule. A life time is a very very long time and Im not quite sure someone really has a grasp on what it takes to make a relationship work, forever. If you dont live like a teenager now, you will probably do it somewhere down the road when you are older. I think its just better to not rush the forever after at this age. You miss so much of life when you do that. imo

[specialmom]

But it is not appropriate for a teenager to look for a long term mate.  The chaces of it actually being long term are slim statistically.  

I think it is often not real to be honest.  If I had a dime for the guys I thought I "loved" and it was infatuation, desire, etc. and NOT love as I've learned what love is as time has gone by.  

good luck

[RockRose]

The "In Love" feeling is a brain chemical reaction.  It's like an endorphin rush,  more powerful than the brain chemical reactions that happen with drugs like cocaine and heroin.  

This chemical reaction lasts about two years,  and doesn't require that you're compatible with the guy or not,  or even if you basically like him.  Darwinians would say that's long enough to get you pregnant and get the baby walking and out of immediate danger.   This incredibly intense desire for another person works,  as far as propagation of the human species.

Then,  after two years when that reaction subsides if you're left with a person you are basically still compatible with,  and you respect and admire and enjoy being with,  then yes,  it can last a lifetime.

If at the end of the two year madly in love phase you look at him and say what in the world did I ever see in this guy,  then it's over.

So yes,  it can happen in high school.  It's likely that in high school what you see as an appropriate life partner will change,  so it's likely that when the chemical reaction fades you realize that's not the guy for you.  But if that ideal partner image doesn't change,  good to go,  it can last a lifetime.

How's THAT for boring?  But it's true.   Romantic love is a biochemical reaction,  and it's as powerful in teen years as it is in later years.  Probably more powerful,  actually,  first loves.

[Jaz1989]

Honey anything is possible. I know couples that meet in high and are still together 30+ years. Me and my bf have been together for almost 7 years and we're highschool sweethearts. You know when its love.

[mrsh72911]

I started dating my husband when I was 16 and he was 19. That was 2005 we've been together ever since, no.break ups. We got married this past July and I'm now,25 weeks pregnant! I Think its possible