If you were in fact depressed and not just feeling really sad about a breakup, which all of us do and eventually we get over it, don't be too hard on yourself but also don't be too hard on those who are around you. Those of us who are depressed or anxious do sometimes lash out and although our anger isn't really directed at whoever happens to be around at the time they don't experience it that way. It sounds to me like your psychiatrist did something that might not have been the most ethical, which was to have your parents call the cops on you instead of taking you to the emergency room to be admitted to a mental hospital until you stopped being suicidal. Having cops involved can go very wrong, although sometimes it is the only way to protect other people from those who are violent when they are suffering from mental illness. In your case, it sounds like your Mom was doing what she was told to do, as it would be very reasonable to equate you getting violent towards her with getting violent towards yourself. Love requires understanding, and your Mom is human just as you are human. Now, there is something else you should consider. Olanzapine may not have been the first drug you were put on for this, but if it was, it was a very odd choice. It's an antipsychotic and you are saying you were suffering from depression. So there's that, as antipsychotics can have much greater effects on our neurotransmitters than most antidepressants. And you don't mention if you were feeling suicidal or having these violent outbursts before you were put on the med or after, as those kinds of behaviors and thoughts can be a result of medication. It is something to consider -- when this breakup occurred, were you just feeling really sad, lonely, insecure, and the like or were you in fact having suicidal and violent thoughts already? Again, something to consider because it might indicate you are not on a med that's good for you. I can't say, but I am raising the possibility just do you know this is a possible side effect. But assuming the drug doesn't have anything to do with this, give your Mom a break. She's going to be your Mom for the rest of your life and if you keep thinking this way you might lose that. And I agree with the above, you definitely are not ready yet to stop therapy if you didn't figure this out on your own. You're still insecure and suspicious so keep up the work that has been helping you. Peace.
In your shoes, I'd continue with the therapy and the meds.
It's not your mom's fault that she was frightened. Love does not require someone to stand still while a grown man throws a piece of heavy furniture at them, and reacting with fear doesn't mean the person is "untrustworthy" or doesn't love you. Don't use her natural reaction to your outrageous behavior as a way to blame her for not being otherworldly saintly. It almost makes it seem like you've seized on this as an excuse to manipulate your mom, when the fault was yours. Maybe you have your own reasons to make your mom feel bad, but the way you are doing it is convoluted. Talk it over with your therapist, and take some ownership over your actions.