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How can I make things work again?

Hello. I have posted a couple of times before on the depression forums, but this is a first for me on relationships. :)
My boyfriend and I have been together now for 5.5 years, and living together for 4.5  We have known eachother for 10.5, too. Well, in the last year or so, things have really gone downhill with us. We broke up, (but yes, we do still live together). It came from a small lie that was told by me, and he had a hard time dealing with it. So, we broke up with the intentions of me bandaging things up, making up for what I had done, and moving on. Well, fast forward over 1 year, and nothing has been resolved. Infact, things are worse now than they ever were.
Due to my depression, and the way that we live, I have a lot of things going on in my own head, and wanted to take care of those things before I could really focus on "us". But nothing really came of either problem, so now they are both kind of out of control. We are no longer really even friends. We live together, yes, and we go through the motions of it (shopping, eating, cooking, having sex...) but the closeness just isn't there anymore.
We have both finally recognized this, and have decided that we BOTH want to work on it. However, mending the relationship itself (the boyfriend girlfriend aspect of it) still lies in my hands, and I understand and accept this. However, we just aren't really sure how to be FRIENDS again. I mean, best friends like we once were. There was a time when we would talk on the phone nonstop (while I was at work, when I got home from work, after I came home from his house...) and now we can barely tolerate eachother for more than an hour at a time.
We are trying to go back to basics, like being nice to eachother, supportive, cooperative things like that, but it just doesn't seem to be enough. Does anyone have any advice, or is anyone in the same kind of situation? I'm really just looking for some ideas of what to do.
Thank you!!!!
Jess
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Keep doing what you are doing, but relax ,you are both still there so you both care ,it may never go back to being like it was, you'll both move on, concentrate on making yourself better and Happy, work on your own life aswell, dont be too dependant on him. Sounds like there a lot going for you, just enjoy the way it is now.
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