How did GOD show you that that was your husband/wife?

Question

did you have doubt although you KNEW that GOD had sent that special person to you?

How did you know? 

What did you feel?


My boyfriend say's he feels I am his GOD given wife, but before he told me that...It was strange how I already knew he'd say that, and I have doubt about it, I feel what if I'm wrong, I have dated countlessly and I can deffinately and honestly say I have never felt this and nor was I looking for it, It's nice to have a special person, but I can point blank say, i have never "dated" to find a husband... not at all, with my previous boyfriend we had dated so long that I just was like "well weve been together so why not" but never did I have this weird feeling.. it so scary to me:/ I'm not even forcing it, in fact im very shaken...

I'm just curious. Im sorry if I sound like I've LOST my mind,..but I can honestly say I feel like I have ...have i?

specialmom · Accepted Answer

Hi there. Well, I think it is natural to have doubts enter your mind when you are deciding if someone is 'the' person.  That is very human and actually a good thing.  We need that inner voice to question ourselves so we do indeed make a good decision.  I'd think about where the 'weird' feeling stems from.  Is there an area that worries you regarding him?  

I'm a huge proponent of premarital counseling.  My church did it as part of the process of getting married.   Things come up that are real life and a couple is asked to discuss them seriously.  Things like kids, faith, work, money, etc.

I entered into being engaged as if it were a business arrangement.  My experience is that love does NOT conquer all.  A strong foundation is what a couple needs to stand the test of time.  So, think about what subjects are critical to a long happy life together and figure out where you both are at with these things and if you feel you are a good match.

I don't know if I ever had a sign per se.  I just knew that we had similar ideas of what life should be like, had great love and affection for one another, and he already felt like family to me when we got engaged.  

good luck

RockRose · Answer

Well,  I'm not a believer in their being JUST one person who would make a fabulous husband or wife.  I think we date with the idea of finding someone who would make a very good partner,  and then we date them long enough to honestly get to know them.

I'm a little curious why a feeling of certainty makes you uncomfortable.  When I have that feeling of something that was truly meant to be (a job,  a husband,  a choice in schools,  a solution to a problem,  etc.) I have a complete feeling of relief.  Okay,  this is PERFECT and meant to be.

I think you should probably explore why that feeling makes you uncomfortable when I think almost everyone else finds it reassuring.

BeautifulSol · Answer

I guess, just an odd feeling, I began to love him, just 3weeks into talking to him,

Life360_Dave · Answer

You know what?

BeautifulSol · Answer

im sorry:( hm

BeautifulSol · Answer

its just a feeling as if I know, i cant explain

Life360_Dave · Answer

hi and welcome. I do follow what your saying but got lost about the weird feeling that your having. What weird feeling?

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