How not to be so "loud" in bed

[JerseyGirl609]

I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and just recently he sat me down to tell me I am too loud in bed, and it turns him off.  He explained that he doesn't like a lot of porn movies, because they are so loud and over the top, it just looks too fake to him.  When we are intimate, and I reach climax, its a turn off for him, and he has a hard time focusing and getting back into things, because I am too loud.  We are intimate quite regularly, and I never had a clue.  I was embarrassed when he told me, because I know I am vocal, but I didn't realize I was that loud, and to be compared in that way was quite discouraging.  I don't have a desire to have sex with him anymore, since I feel like I can't be myself in bed with him because I have to censor myself.  We do love each other very much.  I want things with us to work, but I just don't know what to do.  Should I just suck it up, and bite my tongue?  

[thehitman357]

I had a screamer one time. It was a big turn off.  I was like wtf. I can relate.  However, you should be yourself in bed.  See is you can tone it down a bit I guess.

[imanaddict]

Talking openly about things that are a turn on/off are important in a relationship. I doubt he wanted to offend you, just wanted to inform.

[AnnieBrooke]

In case that didn't sound supportive, I did want to say, he's not telling you that he does not love you, he is just asking about an adjustment of one behavior.  You might find that "being yourself in bed" has more facets of satisfaction than you realize.

[AnnieBrooke]

Your neighbors might appreciate it.  :)  Seriously, you might find that you can be a little quieter and still vocalize some, and enjoy it just as much.