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Should i leave my boyfriend of 5 years for the one i like?
so i have been with my boyfriend on and off for 5 years but now i am madly attracted to this guy at work weve hung out a few times so i got the guts to tell him i like him and would like to date him and if he would give me a chance? he said he would throw me a bone but doesnt want to people at work to find out and get fired since co workers and managers cant date. what should i do? i love my boyfriend but our main issue is he cheated in high school during our first 6 months and had a baby 5 years ago and i could never let it go always bring it up during fights and also we hardly have sex anymore! should i break up with him and see where it goes with this new guy? please help i feel guilty for even liking my co worker and being taken ya know?
"i love my boyfriend but our main issue is he cheated in high school during our first 6 months and had a baby 5 years ago and i could never let it go always bring it up during fights and also we hardly have sex anymore! should i break up with him and see where it goes with this new guy?"......Sounds like you shouldn't be with either guy and now you should just spend time with "you."
Workplace romances? I would never recommend that. Never mix business with pleasure.....doesn't work. Even the less than a gentleman guy who wanted to "throw you a bone" told you that it was against company policy.
Workplace romances? I would never recommend that. Never mix business with pleasure.....doesn't work. Even the less than a gentleman guy who wanted to "throw you a bone" told you that it was against company policy.
COMMUNITY LEADER
This is an excellent opportunity to spend some time on your own!! Don't be the girl that has to have a guy in your life.
And never settle for a man that is clear that he might get together with you but that he doesn't fully like you as it sounds like with the coworker. Also, if coworker romances are forbidden by your employer, that is not something to do. Your job is very important and you shouldn't risk it.
When you have taken some time to be alone (like at least 6 months without dating, okay?)-- look elsewhere for a man to date than your workplace. And they need to be as excited as you are to go out!
By the way, I'm sorry your boyfriend broke up with you as I know that hurts. May this new year be a good one for you. peace
And never settle for a man that is clear that he might get together with you but that he doesn't fully like you as it sounds like with the coworker. Also, if coworker romances are forbidden by your employer, that is not something to do. Your job is very important and you shouldn't risk it.
When you have taken some time to be alone (like at least 6 months without dating, okay?)-- look elsewhere for a man to date than your workplace. And they need to be as excited as you are to go out!
By the way, I'm sorry your boyfriend broke up with you as I know that hurts. May this new year be a good one for you. peace
I STILL wouldn't give the time of day to someone who 'offered' to
"throw me a bone"!! !!
I would view that as crude AND rude !! !!
"throw me a bone"!! !!
I would view that as crude AND rude !! !!
well my boyfriend saw some messeges me and my co worker had exchanged and left me now what? i said i was sorry and felt guilty for liking someone else and didnt know how to tell him part of me is sad the other is relieved and i miss him
yeah you are all right its just so confusing but i probably am just infatuated with my co worker and all thanks everyone and im 22 which to some is still young haha
But anyways don't leave the one you love over the one you like trust me. Right now the new guy gives you a special feeling I assume when yall meet but that feeling will soon fade and picture your boyfriend now with another girl. If it doesn't hurt picturing losing him then yes break up with him but if it does.. then hunny you'll regret trust me I been there
Hi also. You have unresolved issues with you boyfriend. Youve been with him 5 years and never married but you say you love him. Now there is someone new so the question is will you be able to resolve issues with him as they are already apparent as he says he will throw you a bone. I would not advise jumping from the frying pan into the fire.
I agree with all others above me -
I don't think You should have approached Him at all while You are in a relationship. Resolve Your present relationship before You 'move' on another relationship as that is cheating.
and
Personally, I would be T O T A L L Y turned off by someone who offers to throw You a "bone" - what the H E C K is that supposed to mean? ? ? It sounds like a crude sexual term to me and I would run for the hills from someone who spoke to me in that way
I don't think You should have approached Him at all while You are in a relationship. Resolve Your present relationship before You 'move' on another relationship as that is cheating.
and
Personally, I would be T O T A L L Y turned off by someone who offers to throw You a "bone" - what the H E C K is that supposed to mean? ? ? It sounds like a crude sexual term to me and I would run for the hills from someone who spoke to me in that way
You need to examine your current relationship and see what makes you happy and unhappy about it. If the negatives outweigh the positives then it might be time to move on. But don't end things for some guy who is going to throw you a "bone", and if those were his words then he might have been speaking more sexually then relationship wise.
Also this would be a "rebound" were they tend not to work out all that often. And the secret part...while it might be against work rules it would come out at some point.
It may be best to move on from current bf, but to go to this other guy is not the answer.
Also this would be a "rebound" were they tend not to work out all that often. And the secret part...while it might be against work rules it would come out at some point.
It may be best to move on from current bf, but to go to this other guy is not the answer.
COMMUNITY LEADER
'Hello there, welcome. here's my honest opinion. I agree with above---- It sounds like you are unhappy with your relationship and just waiting for something to make you leave him. You can leave him all on your own--- and should if you are unhappy. And also should prior to considering looking for another guy. Spend some time alone getting to know yourself without a man in your life. this is really a key component in making really good decisions in the next man you are with.
As to the work person, I'd never consider going out with someone that told me 'they'd throw me a bone' and that it has to be secret. No thanks. I want a guy thrilled to go out with me!! Not someone that I clearly am more into than they me. And he is actually right---- if work romances are not allowed, why risk your job.
I would expand your circle and look for someone else to date AFTER you properly end it with your boyfriend.
good luck
As to the work person, I'd never consider going out with someone that told me 'they'd throw me a bone' and that it has to be secret. No thanks. I want a guy thrilled to go out with me!! Not someone that I clearly am more into than they me. And he is actually right---- if work romances are not allowed, why risk your job.
I would expand your circle and look for someone else to date AFTER you properly end it with your boyfriend.
good luck
Dear Should I leave my boyfriend of 5 years for the one I Like?
Welcome to the MedHelp Forum. You sound like a very young lady.
Do you think it's wise to risk losing your job to date the man at work?
Unless that's just some kind of acceptable teasing slang,I'm not sure I feel comfortable with this guys superior attitude.
Since when do young lady's approach available gentlemen with "Give me a chance to go out with you?" Only to hear, "I may throw you a bone!".
Don't blow your job over this arrogant wanna be Don Juan. Pamela
Welcome to the MedHelp Forum. You sound like a very young lady.
Do you think it's wise to risk losing your job to date the man at work?
Unless that's just some kind of acceptable teasing slang,I'm not sure I feel comfortable with this guys superior attitude.
Since when do young lady's approach available gentlemen with "Give me a chance to go out with you?" Only to hear, "I may throw you a bone!".
Don't blow your job over this arrogant wanna be Don Juan. Pamela
I don't think you should leave your boyfriend for another guy! If you want to leave him because of problems you can't fix that's one thing...
The grass isn't always greener..
The grass isn't always greener..
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