Before my now husband and I got together, I was with a guy for years. This guy took care of me and made me feel amazing but When we were together, we fought a lot and had jealousy issues-we were young. I thought he was cheating on me a lot although I was never able to prove anything. For almost 2 years I have been talking to him by social mediat. He knew I was engaged and I knew he had a pregnant wife. We talked as friends and then it lead to more. We had some unresolved things that needed to be talked about from our past and the chemistry and feelings sparked on both ends. This guy listens to me, makes me feel beautiful, is a hard worker, close to his family, is very driven in all that he does. These are qualities that attract me.
My husband is the complete opposite. Isn’t driven at all. Doesn’t make me feel confident. We are total opposites. Constantly interrupts me and doesn’t allow me to finish a sentence. My husband is NEVER wrong-of course. I have stayed in this marriage because of our son but recently our son has told me that his father doesn’t pay him any attention when he’s home and I’m at work.
I’m completely torn on what to do. Do I stay in the marriage because I love this man and we are married and have a child? Do I take a risk and leave? The ex has said that if I leave, he would leave. Now, I’m aware how that sounds and I don’t expect him to leave his wife and I don’t get my hopes up regarding that. I hope that we eventually end up together and he does as well. We have both talked extensively about how we feel that how we ended was wrong and things should be different and how we should be together. I have told him that if I leave my husband, I don’t expect him to drop everything.
I don’t know what I’m asking here or what I’m looking for. We have stopped talking to each other plenty of times on Social media and then we start back talking and sparks fly. The attraction and chemistry with the ex is something that seems like it should be from a romance novel. The attraction and chemistry to my husband is basically non existence.
Can anyone offer any advice on which road to go down? Past experiences?