This article was sent to me by someone who has walked the walk. She got married to the "love of her life". She also was very young, he was much older, and he acted like your guy is acting.
20 years and 4 kids later, she's finally left him. He made her life an absolute and total misery.
Take a half hour out of your life to read this article. It's true. And it's about you. That will be the most worthwhile half hour you ever spent.
And then don't say "but I love him". He's wrecking your life.
The only men in their 30's who are with teenagers are men who have a desire to control. This is not healthy. I can not give advice or support for a teenager with a man in his thirties. It's illegal, for one thing. good luck
Ditto the above posters.
What do your parents think about all this?
Your past is the least of your worries here.
If you live in the U.S. this relationship is against the law dear. You are considered a child who has gotten involved with an adult.
A 16 year old shouldn't be involved with an adult.
Sorry, meant 17 year old.
Dear i do wish i could impart some of my experience into your being for just a few minuites for you to truely understand the path you are on with him. You use words like hes very good looking and that all the girls would want him. This is not love for a person this is love for outside appearances that do change as we age. Wait till he starts loosing his hair through balding and gains a pot belly then in a few years down the road may start having an enlarge prostate with urinating problems. I think you may be looking for an escape from the terrible situation in your house hold and men his age have their own place where you can escape to.
Find some nice boy your own age or stay single and do good in school. People come and go in our life and that last thing you need is to depend on someone other than your self.
Tread lightly on this path.
I agree with Life, and have to say - if "all the girls wanted him", he'd be taken before he had to resort to dating a child. Men who "all the girls want" have no problem finding successful, intelligent, beautiful women their own age.
I know you're young and you're probably blowing all this advice everyone is giving you off, but I hope it gives you something to think about.
At some point you'll mature and realize that guys like this are worthless and worth less than the crap under your shoes. Unfortunately until that point comes in your life, you will continue to be controlled, degraded, abused and treated like garbage by him, because that's what you are allowing to happen.
There is nothing you can say or do for him to change how he treats you. He will forever treat you like this. You have to choose whether you want to grow up like your mom did in an abusive and worthless relationship, or if you want to actually make the HEALTHY choice, break the cycle of violence, and get rid of this loser guy. I really hope for your sake that you will make the right choice because you're in for a life of absolute misery if you stay with him.
Yep, what Chima said.
At some point you'll realize that everyone here has told you to ditch him, although it might take you 20 years to do that was what you should do.
I do have another recommendation for you. Go to the library and check out "Couldn't keep it to ourselves" by Wally Lamb. Your library will have it. It's a collection of true life stories (non fiction) of women who have your story to tell. You will find yourself in their life stories, and hopefully you will take heed and not end up like they did.
Ditto the above posters.
Think hard and long about what you are doing.
and of course I agree with all above me.
The Day You Were Born He Was Older Than You Are Now !
His motives are to be questioned. A 34 year old man is with a 17 year old girl ONLY because He wants to manipulate and control You. He knows He cannot do that with a mature Woman. An emotionally and mentally healthy man would not even be able to relate on an emotional level with a teenage Girl, nor would He want to.
I hope You will do the reading that has been suggested to You