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8966451 tn?1413243650

Is he cheating

I was snooping through my boyfriend phone, we are living together and we just had our daughter a month and two days ago. Well he had been texting this girl asking if she was free tonight and she said yes. Well I let him hang out with his friend, well they left the house to supposedly go fishing. Well he asked where she lived and she gave her address and he had his maps open on his phone with her address typed in, he texted her and said he was near. The thing is I barely stopped getting worried about our relationship because he told me that he talks to other girls about having sex but he wouldn't cheat on me because he loves me. I don't know what I should do, my heart is telling me to ask him but I'm afraid of the truth.
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Avatar universal
All of that evidence is like a flashing neon sign, not sure what else you need to convince you that he is cheating. Instead of being afraid you should get angry and tell him that you know he is cheating and has 5 seconds to admit it and then you're leaving and taking your daughter with you. Don't put up with it and stand up for yourself! If you don't stand up for yourself he will always treat you like a doormat. It stinks that he's cheating on you but you don't have to play the victim. You can still have the upper hand by confronting him and leaving.
8966451 tn?1413243650
I told him if he cheats on me that I would take the baby and leave. He told me that's what your going to use against me my own daughter. Then the worst part is that yesterday I prayed to have strength to make our relationship stronger and now it seems like it got good for a night then crashed down
3605625 tn?1385017548
Taking your daughter and leaving his cheating *** is not using her against him, it's doing what is morally right for you and your daughter. It's plain obvious that he was meeting up with someone else, you really need to get out now, or this is something that is continually going to happen if he sees that you are putting up with it. I read of so many girls time after time saying their boyfriends/husbands have cheated on them more than once, and this has happened because they have forgiven them and taken them back, instead of really allowing them to suffer the consequences and the error of their ways. Like it was said from chima, don't be a victim, stand up for yourself! I know it all seems hard having a newborn in tow, but go stay with family and get some help.
Avatar universal
Think about the baby. You want to do the best thing for her right? Imagine if she was with someone who treated her wrong. What would you want her to do? Your a role model now. Don't take it. Your worth so much more.
Avatar universal
Think about the baby. You want to do the best thing for her right? Imagine if she was with someone who treated her wrong. What would you want her to do? Your a role model now. Don't take it. Your worth so much more.
480448 tn?1426948538
Oh dear...I'm sorry you're going through this.  I think you already know the answer to your question.  Like Chima said, you might as well have a flashing neon sign.  It's pretty obvious he's doing things he shouldn't be.  And what's with this crap about he likes to talk to other girls about sex?  

Sweetie, it sounds like you've set the bar way too low for yourself.  Dig deep, and toss him to the curb.  You deserve to be treated MUCH better than that.  What are your living arrangements?  An apt?  Do you guys live with someone's family?

If possible, you tell HIM to leave, as you're not going to uproot your daughter.  If that's not possible, then start making plans ASAP to get out of there, and move home, etc.  Of course you're connected with him for life because of the baby, and it's important to foster his relationship with her.  While it's hard to separate the two....these are two different issues....yours and his relationship, and then the co-parenting.  One shouldn't influence the other.   Easier said than done, but it's SO important that your daughter is not used as a pawn between the two of you.

It's going to be hard, but you're going to have to work together to make the parenting work.  You don't, however, have to work hard at letting him treat you poorly.  Put your foot down and be done.  That's my advice.
Avatar universal
If he spews that line about using your daughter against him, tell him, No, that's completely untrue because you fully expect him to be an active parent to her along with you. But as for the relationship between him and you, its OVER because you're done with his lying and cheating and you're not going to accept it in your life anymore.

You need to make him understand that you leaving and taking the kid just means that you're done with his BS but that he is still expected to be a father and co parent with you. The kid is still going to have both parents active in her life but they will be doing it separately because you're breaking up with his loser cheating butt.
Avatar universal
Are you only 15?  How old is your live-in bf?

I would recommend you leave him and go home to your family.

Sounds like he is up to NO good.
8966451 tn?1413243650
I talked to him this morning and he said he didn't cheat, I told him I get mad at all these girls because I think they are trying to get into our relationship but you are the one letting them. He said that I'm trying to tell him to leave me but I'm trying to just get him to tell me the truth. I live with him in a different town then my parents, but my mom told that if I get a feeling he is cheating check his phone and if he is that I can always go home. I always tell don't treat me bad because someday this could happen to our daughter and he wouldn't want her to get treated that way. We currently live with his parents at their house but he bought us a house,we live in the country so it's on the same land as his parents house so we haven't moved in yet. He said that he was with his friend fishing the whole time.
Avatar universal
"I live with him in a different town then my parents, but my mom told that if I get a feeling he is cheating check his phone and if he is that I can always go home."  I am wondering why is a 15 year old GIRL living with a bf in his parents' home?  And your parents are allowing this?  This sounds like a cultural thing.  You aren't even of LEGAL age.

Anyways, he is just telling you what you want to hear.  If he was trying to tell them to "leave him" then why did YOU see what you saw on his phone?  It is apparent he is lying.

You are very young and gulliable and he is taking advantage of YOU.

GO home to YOUR family as this will only get worse for you.
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