Is it disrespect?

[wildflower77]

Ladies, would you feel disrespected by your husband if he posted on a mutual female friend's picture and said it was "hot" or "sexy"?

Men, would you be comfortable posting such a thing or would you feel you were being disrespectful in some way?

[wildflower77]

You are right in saying that he can be manipulative.  He quite often makes me second guess myself and wonder if I am crazy or overreacting.  It's not fair, and deep down I know it.  I did get an apology, however I still don't think he fully gets it.

[noghre111]

- disrespectful!

[wildflower77]

I know ladies.  I have been round and round with him.  I just want to make it work.  He's agreed to counseling and I am going to be making some calls today.  It didn't work out very well the last time around but I don't think we had the right counselor either.  He does have some pragmatic defecits and is kind of anti-social so I really do believe he thought it was harmless.  I know it sounds like I'm making excuses for him but you have to put yourselves in my shoes.  No one knows the real story from the outside looking in.  Thank you for your advice ladies.  I was really looking to validate my own feelings (but you knew that).  <3

[Londres70]

Is this pertaining to your husband?  If so.....

Wildflower you've gone round and round the mulberry bush with this husband of yours.  

I would HIGHLY recommend you reevaluate your marriage especially if your husband isn't willing to work on the marital problems.  

[RockRose]

I can see a small situation where it might be funny and not disrespectful - if it were clearly a joke and it was not a hot pic,  or if she were doing something very helpful like making barbecue or mowing the lawn.

I don't sense this is the case here,  though.  

Yes,  completely disrespectful and I agree that it makes everyone uncomfortable including the hot woman.

[nursegirl6572]

Ditto the above replies.

I agree that you've been "settling" for a long time.  This isn't new behavior.  I agree that it would be a good idea to start doing some tough thinking about this.  You don't want to be coming here, posting all of the same kinds of questions another 20 years from now.  You know?

I can't recall whether or not you've asked your husband about marital counseling?  If he isn't willing to work on the things that need addressing in the marriage, I would recommend some serious soul searching.  You need to set the bar high for yourself, not just accept the situation for what it is and settle for what's been going on.

Good luck to you.

[specialmom]

I agree it is totally disrespectful.  Makes everyone uncomfortable (including who he posted it to0 and it is inappropriate.  

[Chima7]

If that was the only thing he ever did wrong, I'd probably blow it off and tell him that was a lame thing to do. But in your case, your husband has been a nightmare for you, for quite a long time, and this is just one more nail in his coffin. He's just not a nice guy nor a good spouse. He pretty much ***** at being a husband and I'm just guessing here but he's probably a mediocre father, at best. I'm not sure how much longer you want to keep up this charade with him but you're not getting any younger. As my dad always used to say, It's later than you think. Do you want to spend your time with a worthless husband or do you want to find happiness somewhere else? You'll have to make that decision yourself but I know what I'd do in your situation.

[amandaelmo]

for me that's a no brainer totally disrespectful