RockRose makes a great statement in her last sentence. Medicating the problem and properly treating the problem are 2 different things entirely. Medication alone will not rid you of the problems.
There used to be an old saying, something along the lines of.... "the definition of crazy is doing the same thing, over and over, and expecting a different outcome". Addressing the actual problem is the idea. If your husband isn't willing to address his issues, no medication that you take will rid you of those issues.
I would take extreme caution in regards to your childrens health. An unhealthy relationship between parents will probably affect your children down the road.
The rule about mood meds is, if there is something in your life that is directly causing you to need meds, that you have the power to change, change it. Don't get on 3 different Rx's so you can bear the bad situation you're in without making ay changes.
Hi there. Sounds like you picked a loser. Rats! He's got anger problems and that is unhealthy in a home of children. I'm sure he had angry outbursts in the 4 years you dated ------------- at the first one or two of those you should have addressed this and not let 8 years go by. When he didn't follow through and work on it then, that would have been the time to call it quits. But I guess that happens in life. Hindsight is always 20/20.
It is hard on kids, I think, this coming and going of men. I'm not a fan of it. But . . . if you brought someone that is not good for their life into the picture--------- it sends them the right message to rid their life of him. It tells them that you are strong and won't take c rap from a man, that you put their well being over everything else, etc.
So, yes. It may very well be time to go. Good luck and be prepared. Men with tempers often do not take this kind of thing very well. Maybe the kids can be at their dad's or out of the house at grandparents when you tell your husband. I'd make sure they are not around.
Good luck and it sounds like you've given him chances and the relationship chances and it just isn't going to work. Peace.
I'm sorry that you are in such a tough position. The question you asked, "should I just give up?" is a question only you can answer. If you've done couples counseling, how long did you go? Counseling isn't something that you do one day and expect your problems to go away. It is a work in progress.
And he needs to be willing to address his problems. If he's not, they won't go away on their own and this spiral will continue.