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Is my Girlfriend Bi-sexual?

Ok, so I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 years and she's never made me question her sexual orientation until recently. Last Friday we were trying to decide on a place to go out to eat and she handed me her phone to google local places that we haven't tried before. She has an iPhone and I have big fingers. When I touched the screen it revealed all of the websites she was on and like 4 of those had lesbian porn videos and websites. My heart immediately sank to my stomach. I confronted her about it and she said she wasn't attracted to women, she just watched the videos because she didn't want to watch a man and woman have sex because she felt guilty like she was cheating on me. I'm confused because it doesn't make sense to me! In my eyes if you get sexually aroused and enjoy watching any type of porn, you are sexually attracted to it. I would never watch gay porn because I'm not interested in men. Does this make sense to anyone else ?
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3149845 tn?1506627771
Hi makes sense to me. People are often just courious what other people are doing and wanting to try it doesnot indicate they are bi.
134578 tn?1614729226
If she has been your girlfriend for 7 years and presumably the two of you have a good sex life, unless you think she is cheating, don't worry about what videos her curiosity leads her to watch.  Often women find girl-girl porn stimulating because they know what it can feel like to have those things happen to them.  (Men in the same way relate to men in heterosexual porn -- they are turned on by the looks of the women but can understand what the man must be feeling too, which makes it a one-two punch.)  I don't know why your heart sank at seeing lesbian porn on her phone unless you have other insecurities in the relationship and this just brought them to mind.  She's with you, right?  Not some girl.
13167 tn?1327194124
I think you can rest assured she's bisexual.  Or maybe a lesbian,  but she's been reluctant to live that lifestyle.  

Why are you "dating" a woman for 7 years without a commitment,  by the way?
3060903 tn?1398565123
Are you living common law.? ( i know that not all secular couples go in for making the commitment formally; but again, that doesn't mean that a partner might not want to be genuinely and seriously asked , especially after 7 years.)As for the girl on girl porn. I think many women touch on this subject however briefly in their lives. This might be that, an almost casual reference for her, or it could be something more. Even acting on it would not mean anything more than bi curious imo. and i don't think that most people do act on curiosity, so at this point, i wouldn't let it wig you out. Try to communicate and ask what she's thinking.
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Well, I'm a lesbian and I sometimes watch gay porn with men, and rarely also straight porn, and I'm neither straight nor bisexual. It's not about being attracted to the people involved, but that the actions can still be stimulating.
But even if she is bisexual, so what? Bisexual people can be in committed, monogamous relationships like anyone else. She's been with you for seven years. Is it just that you're insecure about her finding women attractive, or do you have any other reason to be hung up about it?
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