I have a sister-in-law I have a lot of issues with. I can't stand being around her or her kids. My husband feels similar, more about the kids than his sister though. She LOVES that they are "unique".... Meaning out of control. They're so disrespectful and sometimes physical (the oldest child who is 7 punched me in the stomach 3 times a few weeks ago and just seriously thought it was funny). Both the 4 year old and 7 year old have serious behavioral issues that aren't addressed- the behaviors are actually ADORED by the parents.
My SIL/BIL are part time parents- their careers are #1 priority, so their 2 kids are with my MIL half the time. She has no backbone to say no, much to HER husband's dismay. My husband is in denial about it, saying MIL loves it and she would say no if she had a problem with it. There is not a week that goes by those kids aren't staying at grandma's for at least 2-3 days a week. bIL drops them off too when SIL is out of town.
They live 1/2 mile away from each other. They have been for decades now (even when SIL moved, MIL moved two months later, just down the street again).
So, the latest thing that I'm stressing about:
SIL decides to throw a b'day party for her kids who are turning 5 and 8 this month.
The party will be at a local military fort and will consist of archery and team building exercises.
Actual archery. Real weapons/bows. In the hands of 3-8 year olds. Seriously, about 12 kids age 3-8.
Would you feel comfortable taking your own kids to a party like this?
My kids are the same as age as hers. There will be lines of kids with one adult instructor watching while parents are on the sidelines. Feel like losing an eye? Going to jail for involuntary manslaughter?
I said no way. My husband agreed. Immediately upon responding 'no thanks' to the party (email), SIL called husband and implied I was being paranoid about the risks. Now my husband wants us to go for the second hour- no archery though ( yippee....team building exercises). He's insisting on it. Probably because my MIL cornered him last month pressuring him to know if I didn't like them. He told her we don't like having our kids around the other two- they pick up bad habits. Which by the way, would YOU say something to MIL for doing that? I haven't- and have always been cordial, but WE have scaled back on visits since the kids are always there.
So, I think SIL and MIL are insisting to husband.
What would you do?