Posts exactly like this occur a lot on this forum. I think chances are slim that she's pregnant, by the way that she's acting.
If your dates are right, that you first had sex on Dec. 11, and she told you she was pregnant on Jan. 2, that's in fact only three weeks and 1 day after you first met her, not 4. Not that that is a really big deal, it just may come into play if she actually is pregnant and you have to figure pregnancy dates.
This is a wait and see game. I honestly think women should be able to be charged with a crime for this, maybe harassment or some thing like this. It's common enough.
The good news is, you don't have to wait all that long. In a few months she'll be showing, and if there is a baby you now have DNA to verify paternity. What a gift, to be living in this generation where you can get to the truth of paternity.
Best wishes. As hard as this is, it's not going to be long til you know.
And in the future you may want to get to know a woman well and meet her friends before you have sex.
I wouldn't sweat it until you get the results of a paternity test. There is no reason to panic until then. But I wouldn't trust her to get it done herself, I would get a court ordered test so she can't mess with it.
Sorry to hear about this situation. Always provokes a lot of anxiety. I'm a firm believer in being super careful when having sex--- bringing your own protection if you don't know someone very well and even better, keep sex within committed relationships. That's old fashioned these days I know, but it sure does beat wondering if you have gotten a stranger pregnant or if you've contracted an std (get tested).
Yes, pregnancy is a finite time so you have your answer soon enough. Until it is proven to you, I don't think you have to communicate with her or be involved at all. good luck
If she won't take the test in front of you, or show you her medical report that says she's pregnant, that's a HUGE red flag. I knew a couple girls in high school who pretended to be pregnant (for whatever reason) and then faked miscarriages, when they never started showing. It's awful, but women do it. And people went out of their way to warn you about this woman. That's something you shouldn't forget. I know it's hard to wait, but the truth will come out eventually. And probably sooner rather than later. Tell her these words: "If you do not pee on this stick, then come out and show it to me, OR show me your medical records saying you're pregnant, you and I are through." and I imagine she will get all defensive and say again that this means you don't trust her, blah blah blah, to which you can say that you don't even know her that well, and trust is earned, not expected. Then repeat what you said before, and tell her the choice is hers. If she can't do it, leave and never look back. If she has a baby in nine months, get a paternity test done. But chances are, you won't even have to worry about a paternity test, because there will be no baby.
Yes, she could be pregnant, BUT that doesn't mean it's yours.
Tell her to contact you AFTER the baby is born for a paternity test and then don't contact her again. Don't bother asking her to do this and that for proof.
Sounds like she is lying.
I think she may well be pregnant, and not want to go there by having to "prove" it beyond a shadow of a doubt, after in her mind showing you proof,
remember, she's a free agent and might not want to associate anything seedy , like not having her word taken as truth , associated with this big huge incredible thing that's happening in her womb, her heart and her soul.....
not saying she couldn't be lying, just saying that it could well be otherwise,and you'll just not know for sure until you see the proof of her belly and the paternity proving it's yours...
You've gained some valuable life experience here, that i'm sure will not have you in this position again, so that's a good thing...
Take care of yourself. and try to let this go until you are at the point in time of arranging for a paternity test....