Is there really such a type of thing for everyone?

Question

Do you believe in your own heart that there is a true-love/soulmate on this Earth for everyone?

What if you don't believe in it for yourself but, do for others, is that considered a negative attitude? What if you just simply don't believe in them at all? 

Just asking, friendly speaking....thanks.

twinkly84 · Answer

Yeah, I know what you mean. That's why I haven't been on online dating sites or really "looked" in a while. However, I asked for suggestions regarding all of this just to see how to get back in the game if later on, I personally decide to chose to do so. We'll see....if it's meant to happen for me to be loved & get married, it will. If not, at least I'm active, busy & do a lot of things I enjoy doing without hurting anyone. Cheers.

mami1323 · Answer

The right man will come along when it's time for him to come along.  No one can tell you when you will meet him.  There is someone for everyone so I wouldn't put too much into trying so hard.  Desperation shows....just relax and know that when it's meant to happen it will.

twinkly84 · Answer

I am as I stated before though....dark blonde shoulder length wavy hair, blue-gray eyes, no glasses. A very round face with big cheeks. I am 5'6". I weigh 255. To me, that's just awful.... 

However, in my own real life, I have 3 college degrees, work a great job, am currently pursuing my MA, volunteer in my church, am involved w/ many sporting/hobby events & bottom line, trying to remain a positive person. 

I do not have any single friends. I even live with a man that's single too! lol lol Yet, he's currently seeing 2 women ATM. 

So, everyone around tells me I'm nice, shy, cheerful, pleasant & funny but, where's my "true love/soul mate" then? I will never, ever believe in that terminology for my life. 

I also refuse to settle for a man just because he feels that I'm fat I'm stupid. Or he has some kinky fetish I don't agree with. 

Well, that's me in a nutshell...now you know.

sammy73 · Answer

When I see some of the losers who still manage to find boyfriends / girlfriends / spouses who love them, I have to believe that for everyone there is someone out there who is right for them.  But there's way more than just one.  Think about it - 150 years ago plenty of people never met more than 1000 people in their lives, but most still managed to find someone to marry!

Twinkly, you seem to have some real self-esteem issues.  I'll say one thing - if you don't think you are worthy of having someone love you, then any potential partner will pick up on that right away and it'll put them right off, if you haven't driven them away already.  These sorts of attitudes are self-fulfilling.  I really think you could benefit from talking to a counsellor to help you with your self-esteem.

Lucey12 · Answer

Do you remember how when you were in school, there were more girls than boys? I realized this and thought about the whole thing how there is someone for everyone. to make babies, you need a woman and a man. One man can impregnate many women. As bad as it sounds and as much as I wish there could be one man per woman, its not need to reproduce.

Jennifer1987 · Answer

I dont believe in it! Mainly as Iv been in 2 serious relationships and They just didnt work for different!! And now I think Im worse off than ever! Really have no interest in relationships aanymore, weather thats a temporary thing or a permanant thing I dont know!

I think Im going to be alone for ever! Maybe for other people yea,but Im not really one of the lucky people on earth....  Experience had thought me to expect the worst and I wont be disappointed then!

teko · Answer

Well Missy, if you go thru life down on yourself and not liking who you are then how in the h#ll is anyone else gonna like you! You done told em you wasnt worth it? You need to give yourself a break and quit feelin sorry for yerself and get yer butt out there and start meetin more people and quit assuming there aint no one out there! What really counts is inside anyways!

twinkly84 · Answer

To answer my own post....I do not believe in them for myself but, I do for others. I've seen so many great marriages that it's just amazing. I don't believe in them for myself however b/c I just don't believe that I have someone in this world that will totally be only for me, understanding, kind, caring, generous & willing only for me. Sorry to sound negative but, I'm not. I'm realistic. 

Yet though, like I've stated, if you personally found the love of your life who will do all of those things for you, etc. then, you're truly blessed. Cheers.

mami1323 · Answer

I don't believe that there is only 1 love for everyone.  Or a soul mate.  I believe that we have many loves in our lives.  Our first love of course, then the subsequent loves we have after that.  If you are with someone and break up, you will find someone else one day to love.  If a partner passes away, I do believe you can eventually move on and find someone you love.  The love is different in every relationship you have.

teko · Answer

No I do not think there is a soul mate for everyone. In fact if you notice all the divorce and carryings on in bed with each other, neither would you. In fact! I wholeheartedly believe that marriage is on its way out! I think by the time the 3 year olds are grown up, it will be a thing of the past! Everyone is too selfish to be married to someone these days and even if it starts out right, give em 5 and someone else tells em how sexy they are and there they go! Gone off with that one!  Nope, yer better off to stay single and make yer own livelyhood and close the door on all the drama before it even gets started. If you did away with hormones, no one would even be thinkin about it in the first place!

iam1butterfly · Answer

I believe in Synchronicity. There are no accidents in meeting those we meet. 
Soul mates are everywhere... some just happen to hang around longer than others.

jojo24 · Answer

I completely agree with everyone.  I think that people come into your life for a reason and possibly just for a season (metaphorically speaking).  I've had connections and compatibility with other people besides my husband and if I would have been ready for them, it might have worked out, who knows?  They were seasonal, but amazingly, it set the bar really high for what I was looking for in a man and I found that in my husband.  I did learn the hard way what type of man was right for me because of bad relationships, but I didn't give up, even though I was almost certain that no one out there could love me, being the basket case that I am.  I agree with megochick that God forbid, anything happen to my husband, even though there is no replacing him, someone else out there would love me for who I am.  My grandmother is the example of that.  She has outlived two husbands, both of whom she loved very much and loved her, and she still managed to find love about ten years later.  Unfortunately he passed away too, but she is the epitome (for lack of a better word) of what megochick said.  She always told me not to ever go looking for love and to let a man come to you, and if there's anything that she ever told me that stuck with me, that would be it because I've seen it firsthand with her and with myself.  So there is, in my opinion, someone out there for everyone, and there's more than just one "someone."  You just have to let it happen to you instead of trying to make it happen, because you could let "the one" pass you by when you're trying to make someone else into "the one."  Just be patient and don't focus on it.  How often do wonderful things happen to you when you are focused on something else?

Judy246 · Answer

I also agree with mego, if you find true love it he/she dies, there is more out there somewhere in the horizon...I love the thought of it :)

megochick101 · Answer

I actually have to disagree. i do not not believe there is only one person out there for everyone. I think that would be cruel because what happens if you find that one person and then something happens to him/her and the what? You're left with no one else in the entire world who you can love completely again? That to me seems very cruel and unjust, and i believe God created many people out there who would be a good soul mates for all of us. I don't believe you have just one chance at real love and that's it. I would hope that in this vast world if something happened to my husband(God forbid), that there would be someone else out there for me who could be a great match and could be another love for me.

MrS_L0PeZ · Answer

I agree with both imanaddict and Judy. There is a soulmate for Everyone!

Judy246 · Answer

There is a soulmate for everyone. Sometimes, love passes us by and we didn't catch it when it was in front of us. All things are possible for everyone and I agree 100 % with imanaddict...."Some people give up on the idea after many failed relationships"....very true.

imanaddict · Answer

I do believe that there is a soul mate out there for everyone. The hard part is finding that person and we usually have to go through a ton of frogs to find out Prince or Princess (unfortunately). I believe whole heartedly that the bad experiences make us stronger and wiser for our soul mate. 

I don't think that someone who doesn't believe in soul mate has a negative attitude. It's their belief, just the same as some believe in God and some don't. Some believe in Ghosts and some don't. Some people may not believe in it until they find their soul mate and some will never believe in it. Some people give up on the idea after many failed relationships.