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Is this ok
If I have a girlfriend and I let her kiss other guys on the cheek and vice versa is that ok? Will she look like a w**re? Also what if I let her date other guys as long as they're different, have a female friend there so I feel more comfortable, and as long as they dont do anything obscene like kiss on the lips or have sex? Mind you I can live with it if I let her do it but she doesn't let me do it. I just hope I don't get taken advantage of.
NO no that's called playing the field, meaning she's checking out chemisty and pherimones with your express permission (she's pretty shrewd), and likely will end up switching it up, why not? she's not committed and the guy she's with , he doesn't mind if she checks out other guys. If that's not an invitation for heart break i don't know what is.
So alternatively, people are trying to find out who they are. Maybe your girl wants to experience 2 guys 1 girl, and btw, i'm not trying to be crude. It's a thing for many who are experimenting with their sexuality. She'll get a kiss from someone's who she likes, maybe even a girl and maybe she does really like you, maybe she's ask if you want a threesome.
You see where i'm going with this? anygthing goes when it comes to experimenting as long as nobody get's hurt.
So, if this takes on a life of it's own, how are you going to feel if things get more complicated.?
Will you think you got taken advantage of if she dumps you for someone that kisses better, or whose pherimones make her want to get closer to him/her - If she had your express permission?
i was very "into" my high school boyfriend. My other girlfriends had really cute boyfriends, but it never dawned on me to say so, (so what was my thinking, we're all cute when were young).
I think you're asking for trouble here, for yourself.
The way people approach their youthful sexuality has a lot to do with how they are raised, Some people naturally push the envelope as a result of things that went on at home (maybe daddy issues, mother's overt sexuality etc etc) Maybe this is the beginning of her acting out.
To many, this type of behaviour might be classified as healthy, depending on what type of lifestyle they want.
What type of lifestyle do you want. ? Now that's the question you should be asking yourself.
Just be careful. Love can hurt, especially if you're dumped for not being decisive, that would suck. Many times young girls will test a guy to see how serious he is, how protective of his relationship he is. If he's seriously wants her more than anyone else. If he let's her fly, she may fly the coup and not look back thinking she didn't lose anyone that knew what he truly wanted anyway. No big loss.
SO this girl could be shrewd, just testing you ; wants relationships that are "open" (it's a thing); or is making it up as she goes (without thinking about norms, or whether it hurts you) . One thing for sure, is that she wouldn't put up with what you're being asked to put up with and THAT'S BIG, AND VERY TELLING. YOU SHOULD EXAMINE THAT. She is already grooming her men to be able to be hypocritical. I can do without that in a relationship, Most would do without THAT.
But, to keep it simple. If she's only asking to go and hang out with other guys and kiss them if their cute, i suggest you do the same thing. If you don't want to, i honestly think that means you're not compatible.
So alternatively, people are trying to find out who they are. Maybe your girl wants to experience 2 guys 1 girl, and btw, i'm not trying to be crude. It's a thing for many who are experimenting with their sexuality. She'll get a kiss from someone's who she likes, maybe even a girl and maybe she does really like you, maybe she's ask if you want a threesome.
You see where i'm going with this? anygthing goes when it comes to experimenting as long as nobody get's hurt.
So, if this takes on a life of it's own, how are you going to feel if things get more complicated.?
Will you think you got taken advantage of if she dumps you for someone that kisses better, or whose pherimones make her want to get closer to him/her - If she had your express permission?
i was very "into" my high school boyfriend. My other girlfriends had really cute boyfriends, but it never dawned on me to say so, (so what was my thinking, we're all cute when were young).
I think you're asking for trouble here, for yourself.
The way people approach their youthful sexuality has a lot to do with how they are raised, Some people naturally push the envelope as a result of things that went on at home (maybe daddy issues, mother's overt sexuality etc etc) Maybe this is the beginning of her acting out.
To many, this type of behaviour might be classified as healthy, depending on what type of lifestyle they want.
What type of lifestyle do you want. ? Now that's the question you should be asking yourself.
Just be careful. Love can hurt, especially if you're dumped for not being decisive, that would suck. Many times young girls will test a guy to see how serious he is, how protective of his relationship he is. If he's seriously wants her more than anyone else. If he let's her fly, she may fly the coup and not look back thinking she didn't lose anyone that knew what he truly wanted anyway. No big loss.
SO this girl could be shrewd, just testing you ; wants relationships that are "open" (it's a thing); or is making it up as she goes (without thinking about norms, or whether it hurts you) . One thing for sure, is that she wouldn't put up with what you're being asked to put up with and THAT'S BIG, AND VERY TELLING. YOU SHOULD EXAMINE THAT. She is already grooming her men to be able to be hypocritical. I can do without that in a relationship, Most would do without THAT.
But, to keep it simple. If she's only asking to go and hang out with other guys and kiss them if their cute, i suggest you do the same thing. If you don't want to, i honestly think that means you're not compatible.
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Kissing hello to greet someone is no big deal. Kissing a guy to say "you're cute and I like you" isn't. good luck
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What if its to say "you're cute" N that's it.
If I have a girlfriend and I let her kiss other guys on the cheek and vice versa is that ok? ___This is the "norm" in many parts of the world.
Will she look like a w**re? ___Not by those aware of world customs of greeting.
Also what if I let her date other guys as long as they're different, have a female friend there so I feel more comfortable, and as long as they dont do anything obscene like kiss on the lips or have sex? __ This is where it gets confusing. Has your "gf" asked to be able to date other guys (as long as there's another girl going along as chaperone) ?
Mind you I can live with it if I let her do it but she doesn't let me do it. __ Has she used the word "date" other guys, and has she asked you to allow her to "date" other guys? and in the same breath did she tell you that you are not allowed to do the same?
I just hope I don't get taken advantage of.___ if you answer yes, that she has asked to "date" other guys, but you are not allowed to, she is already taking advantage of you for even asking.
On the other hand. When i was dating my bf in high school, we were part of a large group of males and females. We all hung out together when we could. Sometimes it was with other males (for me) and sometimes it was with other females (for him). It didn't really matter the sex of the friend, and we sure didn't call it or consider it "dating".,Dating was the word for the one that we held special, that we had an intimate relationship with. That's why i'm so concerned with whether she has used the actual word "date" as opposed to hang out.
From what you've said , i think you're getting set up for a fall. If you are being told what's good for her, you are not allowed to do, that is what they call a "red flag" or "get out now" card. Sorry.
Will she look like a w**re? ___Not by those aware of world customs of greeting.
Also what if I let her date other guys as long as they're different, have a female friend there so I feel more comfortable, and as long as they dont do anything obscene like kiss on the lips or have sex? __ This is where it gets confusing. Has your "gf" asked to be able to date other guys (as long as there's another girl going along as chaperone) ?
Mind you I can live with it if I let her do it but she doesn't let me do it. __ Has she used the word "date" other guys, and has she asked you to allow her to "date" other guys? and in the same breath did she tell you that you are not allowed to do the same?
I just hope I don't get taken advantage of.___ if you answer yes, that she has asked to "date" other guys, but you are not allowed to, she is already taking advantage of you for even asking.
On the other hand. When i was dating my bf in high school, we were part of a large group of males and females. We all hung out together when we could. Sometimes it was with other males (for me) and sometimes it was with other females (for him). It didn't really matter the sex of the friend, and we sure didn't call it or consider it "dating".,Dating was the word for the one that we held special, that we had an intimate relationship with. That's why i'm so concerned with whether she has used the actual word "date" as opposed to hang out.
From what you've said , i think you're getting set up for a fall. If you are being told what's good for her, you are not allowed to do, that is what they call a "red flag" or "get out now" card. Sorry.
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I meant kissing if she finds the other guy good looking.
Other people won't think she is a who re, but they might well think she is not very serious about you or concerned about your feelings. If she wants to date someone else (even with a female friend in tow for cover) she really does not sound very serious about you. I think you have to face facts that she is not really your girlfriend, just someone you are hanging on to and don't want to let go of, who is getting bored with this and wants out of it. In your shoes, I would not consider this person my girlfriend, just someone I know and occasionally go out with.
Lol, you aren't allowing her to do Anything - you have zero control over her and she's playing you like a fiddler by giving you the illusion of control.
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