My 28 year old son has just gone back to his flat after visiting us for Christmas. Why he came I don't know. He seems so angry with me, all the time, but he is pleasant (if taciturn) with his younger brother and his father. He told me to shut up and called me an idiot this visit, and shouted at me. I didn't respond, but obviously I must be doing something really bad to deserve this treatment. Before he came I'd been meditating regularly and listening to self-help audio files to help me cope. Why on earth should it be so hard? I know I'm not perfect, but I have loved him and helped him all his life. I have never put him down. I show an interest in his life, but I get nothing back. Thank you everyone for sharing. It helps. I'm feeling so many mixed emotions; sadness, hurt, fury. Very best wishes to every mother in this position. It's horrible.
Hi, I'm sorry to hear this. That is heartbreaking for a mother. I always wonder how it gets to this point. Our children calling us the C word?
I know this hurts and hurt often looks like anger. I will hope for healing for your relationship with your boys. peace
This is me exactly! I so wish I never had kids. My 2 adult sons, 33 & 26 treat me like ****, call me names (the c word even) and say hurtful things. I no longer want to be a part of there lives. I am stressed to the max with my ailing mother and they are nothing but hateful towards me. I just want peace.
I haven't seen my son in 28 months. He moved in with his dad when he was 14 (he just turned 17 now). My husband and I have been married since my son was 5 and my husband adores and loves him so much. We tried to be the best parents we could and I know we didn't do everything right but we tried our best. We don't know what went wrong. My ex really doesn't seem to care that he has no contact with us. I feel alienated and my heart is broken I think so much time has passed that he will never want to see us again.
i am 61 yrs old have ms been hurt by 2 husbands , so had my heart broken , i fell in love with a younger man he is 39, my son hates me not allowed to see my graddaughters , i have done my best for him i feel now very very hurt he never came to visit me or let me have the girls , what do you think his problem is please help
How well I know your pain honey, and I've endured it for 4 years. My son is 23, we all moved to SC on coast, and he's worked with police thru school, did awesome, and loved it!! Well, he'd never met his birth father, name's NOT on certificate, and son has My last name!! One night I got a text from him it read, "Thanks for never letting me meet my dad, he's Dead now!" I just came unglued!!! I suffer from bipolar, and I'm on meds, like you I have NO insurance, so excellent therapy is out! :( It's a curse, but I don't regret any decisions!
He's got 5 half sisters in Kentucky (western) which is where I grew up. At 17, he began visiting them, so I figured if he wanted to meet him, then he'd a had them help or I would think!! Not to mention he was never a "dad" to them either!! I was trying a new SSRI to go with Lithium, major Mess!! And my son saw it ALL, I was rapid cycling, so up then crying/upset etc...HEll. He texted later that he forgives me" however, he comes over (he's 2 hrs away in Charleston!! But he still ignores me. I'm studying to be child psychologist, yet I can't solve OUR problem!! :(
I have been suicidal 4 times, as you said, I begged God to kill me! I know we've gotta change what we do now, it has not worked!!! So, that's what I'm seeking, info on how to change behavior. You're not alone, and it *****! Starting to research how to deal with this age, he's not in the home, so discipline; is not gonna work! I'm 4'11, he's 6'1 and knows he can intimidate me, but he's not violent at all! He's successful, he's SEEN how drug dealers are!! His B. father had over $9 grand cash on him, split among kids, he refused it!! See? I think that he's blaming other stuff on me. My parents helped me raise him, they're amazing! And, I struggle every day about my faith, do you??! I have HAD IT!!! And I'm ready to find answers! Prayers for you sweetie, God bless!!