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My boyfriend has a porn compulsion/addiction

Hi there. I'm just looking for a little insight here. My boyfriend and I have been living together for about three months, and he looks at porn every day. We have had a few discussions where I've told him that it makes me feel sexually inadequate, cheap, etc. and he has said he would try and cut down. Now let me just say: If he looked at it once in awhile, like if we had a busy week and weren't intimate for a few days or if it was that time of the month for me or whatever, I would have no problem with it. I understand that men are visual creatures and that my boyfriend has a high sex drive. We have sex almost every day unless our schedules conflict. He is able to achieve orgasm every time with me however he does have a problem sometimes with keeping it up. (Sorry, didn't know the medical term for that..) I have to orally stimulate him to get him erect and then sometimes during the act I have to orally stimulate him again. I believe that this has to do with the amount that he masturbates. He is a faithful, caring, kind, wonderful man and I really believe that we have a good future, I just feel like I can't get past this porn thing. The thing is, I don't know what to do here. I looked at some of the other posts and it's not like he's doing it when I'm around or that he turns down sex with me or doesn't initiate sex with me... he can't keep his hands off me! My deal is though, why every day? Is your imagination that bad? He's said he thinks he has an addiction but I was married to an alcoholic and I feel like this isn't an addiction for him, more like a compulsion. How do I approach this with him? Thanks for any responses :)
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Ya know--------- you have to think about this.  I am not anti porn (I guess)----- but would I want my spouse of 10 years looking at it frequently---  let alone every day?  No. My husband is not into it and never looks-------- fine by me.  Anything done on a daily basis and that we lie to our significant other is a problem.  I'd seriously consider if you want to tie yourself permanently to this man.  Just my thoughts.  good luck
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It does not sound like he is the one for you, if he cant give up porn move on and get a life  luck  jo
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I forgot to say: After we've had our discussions about the porn, he doesn't cut down, he just deletes it from the browsing history, which bothers me even more because he's being deceptive. I talked to him about this too and he said he does it because he's embarrassed, which is part of it I'm sure. I'm just not sure if I'm overreacting and I should just get over it, or if I have some valid point here. That's where my confusion is. :)
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