We get a lot of posts on MedHelp from women who take it super, super-personally that their boyfriend looks at porn. I don't think men who use porn in this way do it because they feel there is anything wrong with their girlfriends or their relationships, it's just a quick release. Would you feel less distressed if you found out he was masturbating when you went out without looking at porn? Are you saying that any time that he ejaculates, it must be when he is having sex with you? (Given how human beings are, that seems like a very high standard for someone to have to meet. Sometimes a person is just horny, or stressed, and wants to take care of the issue in 3 or 4 minutes.) Or is it that you would not mind learning he masturbated when you were away briefly, but you just really do not like it that he is looking at porn when he does it? Or is the problem that he seems to do it a lot?