My married life

[Jelry]

Hello can i get some advice? My husband starting work at the club as a manager and i think i need to stop him because of im thinking theres so many naked girls there but in the other way its the only job he know for now because he is a foreigner he is half korean and half american and  im pregnant now and we move there near at hes work place and i think if my husband want to cheat on me he can do that anyway he can even if not in the club he work so i think now i just need to trust him and hes grown.up now and old enough to tell him and he knows already what is right or wrong for now im just supporting him to hes job but little bit scared.. Can i get some of your comments guy what you think?

[AnnieBrooke]

I agree that this should be seen as a temporary job while he works on his education, there are trade schools he can attend for a skill that produce graduates relatively quickly, or he can go for a college degree in a field where he is likely to get a job, like computer science.

I don't think he will automatically cheat when working there, if anything, nudity will become somewhat routine and he will become more inured to it than the opposite.  Men don't cheat because they see a naked woman, anyway: they cheat because they want to cheat, the women they see certainly don't have to be naked.  

But as specialmom says, it's a sleazy and lowbrow business and the women are not empowered but are downtrodden (you don't see men having to strip off their clothing to get money).  It's also likely to attract unsavory business associates, so he should make plans to move along as soon as he can, but in the meantime keep quiet, do his job, keep his nose clean, and take home his paycheck.

[Marzj]

Honey you need to trust your husband . Don't think like that . Why you want him to cheat on you. You need to support him . Remember your carrying his child not someone else .

[specialmom]

Hi.  This would bother me too.  That's such a seedy business.  Certainly that isn't the only job he can get.  I agree that it would be so awesome if he works on his career options by furthering his education.  Online school is more and more accessible these days.  Trade school is fantastic and skilled tradesmen can make a great living.  Working in a strip club? Raunchy.  Bad hours.  Bad scene.  I'd help him understand that a job where women aren't exploited like that would be a better fit for a family man.  good luck

[mkh9]

I agree with specialmom but just because he works in one of those places doesn't mean he is cheating. Is there any particular thing he has done to make you think he has? Come home later than he said he would, have messages on his phone or email? I don't encourage checking them all the time as that means you don't have trust and a good relationship. But Just wondering if there was something you noticed? If not it probably pays better than other jobs but it is best to start looking to try to get skilled in another one. Is he open to that?
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[Nighthawk61]

I would have him "move up" and at least go to school part time for a better job that doesn't include naked ladies, something more suitable for a married man with children.