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Porn causing relationship problems. Help and advice.

Hey girls n guys!! Ok so this is my first time posting on anything like this, hopefully I doing this right lol
I have a little relationship problem and would love some help and advice please :)
Ok so here it gos, I've been with my bf for 3 years, in the beginning our sex life was in top form! But due to "emotional" problems ( I think that's what I'd call it anyway) with me and due to crazy periods, bleeding  for upto 2months, I was lucky to get a week period free! And I also from time to time experience severe pain during sex.. So our sex life went a little down hill. So just lately my periods have decided to go back to normal, just as that happened I got a second job so I was hardly ever home and normally work till 12/1pm, I never had the time or energy to get intimate, but since leaving my second job 3 weeks ago I feel like I have a new lease of life, every night/evening/morning if I could get my hands on him! And this is where the problem is, my bf with an extremely high sex drive doesn't want one bit of me. He has been staying up till all hours and sleeping on sofa after a long day of playing xbox!! Or so I thought, so one morning tidying up in an old cupboard, I found a rubber glove and a web cam, my heart sank! I perviously found him on webcam :/ so the FBI in me popped on the xbox so see the internet history, it was full of porn, tons everywhere, and home made sex toys, the rubber glove is apparently a fifi, I seen many saved searchers about jelquin and stuff basically to make him bigger, he always expressed to me he want to be bigger and always went on about how big he is but this was on another level, all his porn was about small ladies and huge c**ks, I couldn't believe my eyes..
n yes ino every lad does it, I've never had a problem with it before I knew he would of watched it but just not how often, at lest twice a day, even if we have had some sort of sexual activity he still does it, what is bothering me the most is he won't come to bed with me, at all, I couldn't sleep one night after giving the pleaseee come to bed with me eyes but no, it didn't work and I actually heard him wanking downstairs afterwards.

I'm finding it really hard now, I don't no what to do, I'm getting zero attention from him, he never puts the controller down day or night, I've gave 110% when we do have sex it's been mind blowing but the more nasty porn I see its turning my stomach, I don't even want to go there with him now.. I feel so **** and so ugly, I've always had major body issues and low self confidence which ino isn't helping matters..
In just really lost and have no idea what to do r say. Sorry if I'm waffling on, I tryed to keep it as short as I could, this is just some of the main points.
I really would appreciate any help or advice :) thanks amy xx
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Thank u so much for ur comment!
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So, the good news is that you aren't married.  Yeah.  That means you can really figure this out and stay or go based on that answer as it is much less complicated to move on if you are not married or have any kids.  One of the few benefits of living like a married couple without being married!  (I think women get the raw end of the deal with long term live in situations if you can't tell.)

Anyway, so, you super sleuthed and found this information.  You've asked us what we think but there is a big piece missing . . .   what HE says about it.   Have you spoken to him about your findings?  

I personally think it is a red flag and that great distance has grown between the two of you that he sleeps on the couch, he games for hours, you very rarely have sex, etc.   When couples fall into those patterns, they are usually pretty disconnected.  

I think you need to ask him what the deal is with all the porn and what is his vision for the two of you here on out.  This gives you some indication if you two are at all compatible sexually long term.

Let us know what he says after you talk to him!!  Glad you found us and we're here to help!
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