Hi, I have been receiving possible "attention" from a guy at work. He knows I am married. I am 35 and he is 37.
He has asked me for my mobile number, told me he'd been looking at my photos on my social media page, overstepped boundaries with me (initiating physical contact), checked me out (in my peripheral vision), has asked other co-workers where I work and how long I was going to be there for (I worked on fixed term contracts), told me I look good for my age, has attempted to get me alone with him and he has also tried to touch me more than once.
I really don't know what to do about this. It isn't as though I don't like him in a friendly sense because when I worked alongside him he was really nice and supportive - my other friends have said they are surprised at how positive and helpful he was with me than with anyone else he's worked with (he is their manager). He asked my former boss (who I am friends with and is his subordinate) for my full name and he gave him it without asking why. Some newer, younger friends have said what he's doing sound predatory. Around me, he seems so sweet, polite and gentlemanly.
Part of me is debating to give him my number and see what happens and another part of me is still trying to work out his intentions. A former co-worker of mine who had a hostile relationship with him told me that his department "plays mind games with people" and that they are "the department that everyone hates" but I don't have that problem with them - they're all lovely and still like chatting to me as much as they did when I worked with them. Oddly enough this former co-worker is someone who has never, ever, gotten on with me, despite being a friend of my mum.
If there is any attraction/chemistry between us, I don't get it. I don't fit his profile of any of the models in his calendar (on his social media avatar) - I'm short and I don't rate myself very attractive at all. And I don't know what it is to believe. I don't trust the comments of someone who I didn't get on with at any point, and so all I have to go on for now is my own instinct.
I have kept my husband informed on what is going on and he has told me to be careful when I am around this guy.
Anyway, any ideas on how to proceed would help. Thank you.