Why are you with her, honestly? Besides being physically unable to have sex due to psychological issues, she's kind of rude and uncaring.
Chemical castration, really?
I think you need to move on, and find an appropriate partner - unless you are willing to live a sex-free life.
I meant to say, if she wanted to change, I could see some hope.
She's good with this. That leaves you with no hope this will get better.
Your solutions sound totally out there and aren't going to solve anything.
This isn't going to work..........move on.
Come on, if you still love each other you should try to sort this out. Nice of you to respect her. You should. In almost all relations there is somebody who wants sex more than the other. That is natural. In this case it seems like the two of you could benefit from getting closer to each other emotionally. You need to have really deep conversations and start to communicate your feelings with each other. Not only to find a solution but because communication is important in itself. Maybe her sex drive is not really so low after all, once she can communicate with you better. Who knows? Try to connect more. Both verbally, emotionally, doing things together, gently touching/hugging/kissing and so on.
In the end if you will have a deeply sharing love life,even once per week might be enough. The part who wants the most can also try masturbation techniques.
Try to open up and communicate. But no pressure.
My suggestion would be to have a very serious discussion about how you feel about her, but also about your need for affection and sex.
She is your girlfriend not your wife.
Perhaps if you let her know the fair thing would be to continue seeing each other, but also you would like to see other people and hopefully fulfill some of your sexual needs.
I can understand sex being physically painful for a women but she could at least try oral sex to bring you closer in that area. If she is unwilling to work on this, and continues to be remote then I give you a great deal of credit for being able to live like this and actually feel you are crazy about her.
As long as you are willing to accept this and still put up with it and express your undying love for her---why would she do anything differently then she is doing now--which is freezing you out.
You deserve a good a d loving life with someone. It is very kind that you have not blamed her for her physical problem, but that does not mean you have to accept it and continue to live with her.
Perhaps when she realizes she may loose you she may suddenly be more amorous. Funny how that works, LOL!