For starters, I think you're WAY WAY WAY over-analyzing everything. You sound more like you're reading out of an anatomy textbook rather than talking about sex between two people....I would hope meaningful sex, being that you have a history with her.
I think you're paying too much attention to every little detail. The best way to address any issue, including intimacy, is communication. Now, a word of warning, IF you decide to have a conversation with her about it...I wouldn't approach it the way you did here...way too clinical.
I think you also have to work to get rid of a lot of your preconceived notions, about her anatomy, etc. IMO, satisfying sex shouldn't be a lot of "work". Two partners should be able to have a fulfilling sex life, as long as they're communicating with each other, and of course barring any major major relationship issues that already are a factor.
Perhaps 3 months with her seeing a man for 2 of those wasn't enough of a "break"? How did you two get back together? What did you do during the "break"?
Good luck, hope it all works out.
We have talked about this issue. I told her it has felt different and I was upset that I wasn't sexually pleasing her as well as I used too. I told her that her vagina felt looser than usual and her vagina looks a bit droopy. We talked about it as she reassured how it was okay and sure that it was just about how we hadn't had sex in a while and that we just needed to be back to a normal emotional and physical state. I agreed with her as we told each other how much we love each other. She agreed was okay for me to do some research and help out the issue to see if anything would help. This is why I am here Hahahahaha.
This wasn't a break, we were split up even though we remained friends.
Our communication is incredibly strong and we have always had the strongest growth from one another.
Maybe I should have posted this in a sex forum. But I approxite the response. :)
We are open to trying things to help her get some of her tightness back and get more sexual satisfaction back.
We have loved each other for close to two years and have always valued our strong relationship when we were together. And now emotionally an even stronger one. I'm confident in our emotional status now I was just worried about our sex life.
I commented below sorry hahaha
" I told her that her vagina felt looser than usual and her vagina looks a bit droopy. "
Oh good gracious....I cannot think of anything more offensive that you could have said, truly. I'm getting the feeling that YOU are more worried about her satisfaction than she is. You even said yourself that she normally climaxes quickly. You telling her what you did certainly isn't going to help her satisfaction in the bedroom.
I honestly think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. I think your perception of her "droopy vagina" may also be way off. Even women who give birth to many children don't usually have a noticeable change in their external genitalia. The nature of the tissue pretty much allows for it to return to its normal state each time. Any change would almost never be physically obvious to the eye. If she doesn't get a complex about her private parts, you're going to be lucky I think. Especially being that the two of you are "working on" ways to improve the tightness of her vagina. Yeeeesh.
" She agreed was okay for me to do some research and help out the issue to see if anything would help"
"We are open to trying things to help her get some of her tightness back and get more sexual satisfaction back. "
I'm sorry, with all due respect....that's just kind of odd, and I would bet very very weird and awkward for your GF. I think this is a hang up YOU have...and she's just going along with it....as I have a sneaking suspicion you can be quite persistent. My advice to you plain and simple is to try to chill out, and quit looking at every detail under a microscope. Your GF and her vagina are not a science project....you know?
Wow, you're lucky she even speaks to you after you said that to her. If any guy ever said that to me I'd throw him out with the rest of the trash and I wouldn't wait for garbage day. That's extremely offensive and completely inappropriate for a guy to tell a girl. How would you feel if she criticized your penis and said you had to work on ways to make it bigger because it's way too tiny? Either you are very inexperienced in sexual matters or you're just rude. Regardless, if you were a good person you would apologize profusely to her for being so rude and insensitive and you would spend the rest of the relationship, however short it ends up being, making it up to her. To do anything less would be disrespectful to her and she deserves better than a guy who says such hurtful things about her body. I hope she will realize that she doesn't need to put up with a guy who says such mean things to her because there are plenty of guys out there who will treat her so much better than this.
You all are right. I apolized to her already about bringing this up so poorly and making it her problem rather than mine.
I thought of it as you said if she said my penis seemed smaller than usual and I should take growth pills. It's not fair to say those things unless one of us say them in a cautious and caring manner.
She wasn't mad when I brought it up, I and I thought it would be okay. I ended up being infatuated with the idea that the man she dated when we weren't together caused this. And if I'm truely going to be back with her I need to forgive her for anything with him anyways. I know it's not possible for him to have an effect and I let the myth get to my head because of how insecure I felt about him and myself being back with her so soon after.
She did get mad at me rightfully so because she was just trying to help me at first until I woudlnt **** up.
I appreciate you guys being no ******** on here. I showed the messages to her and she laughed at how you guys where much harder than her, but show just how absured my anxeiity can perpetuate made up issues.
I know I've had issues with anxiety that we have both worked on and it is sad that it came up again.
Though like any mistake II learned how to bring up things that bother me and really think more rationally about them next time around.
She knows the only reason this happened was because I was worried about the man she dated inbetween our relationship. Im grateful for how understanding we are.
I should have told her I felt insecure. And I shouldn't have told her what to do. At most just carefully sujest ways to help as well.
Surprisingly enough she never broke up with me because I'm an ******* sometimes. Hahahaha She's always known how to put me in my place.
Geesh...........how old are you? Are you more worried about the sex then her in general?
Definitely agree with the above posters...........you obviously lack tact and sensitivity. You come across crass, rude and void of any empathy.
Why doesn't she consult a physician if this is such a big problem for her?
It is apparent you know very little about vaginas. A vagina doesn't stay the same throughout a woman's entire life especially after having different partners. Sounds like this other partner possibly was more well endowed than you in regards to "manhood."
I definitely wouldn't recommend using no condom especially since this relationship has been a bit rocky. USE a condom each and every time. You don't need to compound all this with a baby on the way.
Lastly, work on your anxiety. It is clearly not under control.