Single mom need good wise advice please help!

[DarinaP]

I am 6 month pregnant and still worried and sad. My boyfriend left me when i was 4 weeks pregnant. I know he went through hard times drinking a lot, even tried to sleep with my friend worrying about having a child because he is Muslim and Turkish and it's not acceptable in his culture to have a child without marriage. But he does not want to marry me because I am not Muslim and not turkish, he is worried that his parents will know about the child and that if he finds a women he loves ( he is looking for a Turkish women) she would refuse to be with him because of the child, so he told me to be quite and not tell anything to his parents or anybody about the child. I do want to tell his parents though because I think it's not fair to them, I was thinking to wait till the child will be born and tell them or when is the best time to tell them please give me an advice?  Also I don't what he wants , he does not want to date me but he comes for sex saying that he feels good with me and he is also talking to this Turkish girl, trying to find the right women , I feel very sad I don't know why I wasn't the right women for him. I don't care if he sleeps around, but I do care if he falls in love and marries another women because I think its not fair. I know I have to let him go but its so hard and its so hard to keep a child as a secret.

[aisbad]

you know as long as you have told his parents its more thn enough,if he wont appreciate you now he will later.what goes around will always come around. just take care of your precious baby and yourself .i had been in a similar situation though not pregnant and he came back regreting. just be patient and try to move on dear. God could be planning something way better.every thing comes for a reason

[DarinaP]

I was thinking if I tell his future wife first she might not believe me thinking I am a crazy girl that just wants to get back her boyfriend, secondly I will screw up the relationship between me and his parents forever. Should I just let it go and let him marry, someday he will marry anyways not this girl but other one. Still not sure what to do.

[BearHunterMomma27]

I would.go.for support and full custody. He didn't care you weren't Turkish when you had sex. He should have been more carful if it was that big of a deal.  Your baby deserves to have his financial support u less.you can do it.your.own. if you can than I suggest completelyignoringtham from here.on out. Otherwise I'd get papers for full custody and support so he can help financially and won't be able.to see the baby unless you allow it. I also would tell this.other woman bc if it was you wouldn't you want.to know if.your marriage was starting out in a lie? Thats absurd he would do that to a wife. it seems he takes nothing serious his religion family or even marriage he sounds.like a big fat joke.

[mag131]

My only question for you dear you did not his religious background before involving in sexual activities. These Muslims guys are strict with their religion. If I were you I would just try to talk to him abt the baby. If he sounds like he does not to be part I would leave it alone. Those man are dangerous.

[imanelena]

First of all respect yourself. There are such men  that its better to stay without them at all and care about child alone.  Its better to be calm  than suffer . And about money dont worry. If God gave you this baby He will give you everything to keep him . I was lonely mum with my first child and i know how its difficult to do everything alone. But time passed and im not sad about it. My daughter has everything for normal life and what is the most important she has my love .

[lilpianogirl85]

Honey my heart really goes out to you. I wish you had a better opinion of yourself. You truly do deserve a man who values you and one who will take responsibility for his actions. Don't let anyone treat you this way. I wish I could tell you the right thing to do but in his culture I'm not sure. But I do know for sure is you shouldn't be letting him use you. You obviously have allot of love to give, don't waste it on someone who is just playing with you and doesn't value you. I'm not sure if you should tell his parents but don't keep it a secret. He doesn't have to be in the babies life but he still has responsibilities. And tell him you will hold him to those responsibilities. He still has financial obligations to you. And you shouldn't hide that. Stand up for yourself and if it's too hard to do that than stand up for your baby.