My boyfriend is watching porn behind my back

[Jaimelousiexoxo]

Okay so a few weeks ago me and my boyfriend were relaxing at home and he went to the toilet and he was there for a long time and I mean a long time I had started to think he had finished in the toilet and had gone to do something else so I went to check on him the toilet door was open just a bit I went in to see his hand on his p***s and I’m just like what the heck obviously I get furious I feel ugly I feel like our sex life isn pleasing him and he just tells me he’s doing it to me as he has personal photos of me but I just can’t help but think he’s lying he also gets so angry with me and tells me the door wasn’t open and I unlocked it somehow I end up just stop mentioning it bc we just argue then tonight I was on his phone being bored and I went across his recently deleted photos on his phone and in there was a screenshot of a porn site with the caption of some girl I googled searched and it was a girl who looked nothing like me I end up confronting him about it and he says “oh that’s a personal joke” I said with who he says his friend sent it to him and it’s a joke about me I ask him to explain and he says no and there I was like so a porn video is a joke about me he just keeps lying he then has gone out and I messaged his friend about it his friend knew apsolutly nothing that I was going on about my boyfriend has still not come home and is ignoring me and now I’m thinking back to a few weeks ago when I caught him in the toilet and the new screenshot was recent as I looked at the times and remember that it was when he was in the shower. Please help me

[AnnieBrooke]

Some girls don't care if their boyfriend looks at porn. Some take it ultra personally and think it is about them not being attractive enough. Some guys watch porn and some don't. If a girl who takes it personally pairs up with a guy who watches, she will sometimes search her boyfriend's phone or laptop behind his back, cry, yell, accuse, demand, and often require her boyfriend to promise he won't watch it. The boyfriend caught in this position often lies because he doesn't think porn is a big deal in the first place but can see his girlfriend is upset and wants her to be less upset. Then she catches him doing it again and the fight is escalated ("he LIED to me!!!") etc.

I think if you are one of the girls who hates that her boyfriend watches porn, you should look for a boyfriend who doesn't watch porn. A guy who watches it will never understand why it is upsetting to his girlfriend, and will likely not stop.