I married my husband in 1971. I spent a lot of that year, and others, silently crying in the bathroom. He is helpful at home and willing to do anything to help that involves physical work. He has gone out of his way to help in some situations. What is totally lacking is an emotional relationship and a sharing of emotions. He just can't do it. He will look uncomfortable and not say a word. I have always been very insecure, but I do know that he hasn't cheated on me. but he has always constantly stared at other women, and not indescretely either. He is home all weekend and during the evenings after work. He has an uncle who does the same thing (I met them years ago when we were first married) and his wife just laughs it off. She even described one incident. I don't know, she must be very self-assured, but I was hurt beyond belief. I realize now that I should have left him in the first year of our marriage, but it just didn't occur to me. I thought things would improve. Our sex life got worse and worse. I thought if he really loved me and was satisfied with me, he wouldn't do this. We finally went to marriage counseling in 2000, and he agreed, saying "OK, if you need it." He didn't see any problems. The marriage counselor finally told me that I would have to leave him or take him as is, because he would never change, will never become a sensitive, caring person with whom I can talk to about our relationship. I am now heading for retirement age and plan to work some after I retire, but it has been too many years, and I missed my time to leave. At this point, I couldn't manage financially without his income and eventual retirement IRA, and I am also afraid of leaving and going out on my own. I don't hurt as much as I used to, have closed of a part of myself that used to be so important. I've made friends, and become involved with other things, but still have some deep resentment. I guess my question is: how do I handle the rest of my life with him? He is somewhat better now about the staring. I have told him I will totally embarrass him in public if he does it again in a restaurant, etc, when I am with him.