What am i doing wrong ?

[twan100]

HI I been with my boyfriend just over a year and sex is a big issue. we have sex every 6 weeks and its always started with him I want sex more but hes always tired cant be bothered. he cheated on me about 2 months into relationship which we have sorted out but him rejecting me sexually has started bringng up the feeling of rejection I felt then. I just don't feel like i do it or him at all. He says I do and hes very cuddly and kisses me its just the sex. e thinks its normal to have it every few weeks and makes me feel like its me when I say hes making m feel unloved a bit he says ' well I had sex with you' as I hes done me a favour. I also found out hes watchin porn which I don't mind but find it upsetting that ive asked him to have sex he says hes to tired then watches porn that same night instead. I had a ectopic pregnancy in nov a put a little weight on ive lost half a stone since but maybe that is why or maybe hes just no into me anymore and idea rom mans point of view would be great thanks

[Life360_Dave]

Hi also, Its not what your doing wrong but its what hes not doing right!!!
With his cheating and they way he treats you it does appear as he is your boyfriend but does not appear you are not his girlfriend. These are not things that people do to someone they love so ask yourself the question of why is he with you! It could be financial, or someone to control, or as simple as a place to live.
If he is with you for reasons other than love, then dont waste any more of your precious time on him. You seem very wise and in turned in with your self but he is the one causing all the confusion not you.

[TTinKKerBBell]

agree with SpecialMom
The two of You are sexually incompatible.  Likely, this is not going to change so You have to determine whether You can live the rest of Your life with less sex than You want

agree with Londres
These are red flags.  Red flags are meant to tell us the relationship is not working.

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  You've been with him a little over a year which is a while but not that long.  Sex is an important aspect to a relationship and this is an area you two aren't compatible.  This probably won't change.  If you don't mind being in a sexless relationship, then stay and continue.  But if you know you want sex and passion, then cut your losses now.  

It most likely won't get any better and being sexually incompatible can be a deal breaker for some.  You decide how important it is to you and go from there.
BTW, how are other aspects of your relationship?  Do you get along?  Often lack of sex is a symptom of other problems.  good luck

[Londres70]

"we have sex every 6 weeks and its always started with him I want sex more but hes always tired cant be bothered"........Red Flag

"he cheated on me about 2 months into relationship which we have sorted out but him rejecting me sexually has started bringng up the feeling of rejection I felt then"..........Red Flag

"e thinks its normal to have it every few weeks and makes me feel like its me when I say hes making m feel unloved a bit he says ' well I had sex with you' as I hes done me a favour".........Red Flag

"I also found out hes watchin porn which I don't mind but find it upsetting that ive asked him to have sex he says hes to tired then watches porn that same night instead"...........Red Flag

"I had a ectopic pregnancy in nov a put a little weight on ive lost half a stone since but maybe that is why or maybe hes just no into me anymore "..........This isn't about YOU per se, but him.  It's him with the issues, not you.  Don't turn this around on yourself.......it's him.

I am NO man, but I will give you my point of view based on my experiences.  He sounds like a selfish man with issues that you can't help him with.  You didn't "do" this to him; he is this way and it doesn't really matter what you do if he isn't willing to recognize his issues and work on them.  

We date for a reason and you have the power to say "I will accept this" OR "No, I won't accept this."  In other words don't settle for nonsense.