tj - you're probably too entrenched in this relationship to see it clearly. It sounds like he doesn't want an intimate relationship, he wants a girlfriend who lives out of town.
Thank goodness you didn't already quit, and move there to find that out. It always seems best to date someone in your own town, because people who choose to date people who live somewhere inaccessable often don't want an intimate relationship. THey just want to feel like they have one.
Best wishes.
It sounds like he is getting cold feet. Back off for a while, don't quit or move just yet. Now, you need to ask yourself if this is someone you really want to invest any time in? It's ok that he is scared (you probably are as well), but he should talk to you about it so the two of you can work it out. Otherwise nothing is going to get done. Now, some guys will acknowledge their fear, talk to their gf, work it out and the relationship will become closer and perhaps move towards marriage. OR, he won't want to face you or his fears of moving in together, in which case you are just wasting precious time. Cut your losses and move on. Back off from him and see which road he decides to take. Then, decide if he's worth it to you. Good luck.