Aa
am i asking for too much ? help
you guys already know what ive been going throu .. but here it goes !
i cried and beged for him to delete his facebook and change his phone number becuz its causing a lot of problems i just cant take it anymore .. his ex coworkers think they own him .. one message him on facebook and in the end she said hope u and the baby is well .. its not the first time, like really ? is he a single parent what about the rest of his family ?? he ran into his ex coworker and his phone was on video inside his pocket and in the end she said come over to my house and he said my girl kills me and she said she doesnt have to know and he just laughs it off .. like awww that is it ? he told me he would delete facebook and never did .. and he told me if i wanna grab my thinfs and leave i cant he wont change his number .. he makes no effort to save us .. im sleeping on another room and he said he wont stop me if this is what i want .. im so confused what kind of love is this ?
i cried and beged for him to delete his facebook and change his phone number becuz its causing a lot of problems i just cant take it anymore .. his ex coworkers think they own him .. one message him on facebook and in the end she said hope u and the baby is well .. its not the first time, like really ? is he a single parent what about the rest of his family ?? he ran into his ex coworker and his phone was on video inside his pocket and in the end she said come over to my house and he said my girl kills me and she said she doesnt have to know and he just laughs it off .. like awww that is it ? he told me he would delete facebook and never did .. and he told me if i wanna grab my thinfs and leave i cant he wont change his number .. he makes no effort to save us .. im sleeping on another room and he said he wont stop me if this is what i want .. im so confused what kind of love is this ?
BTW: previous marriage means divorced and that you aren't. You are still legally married.
Well.....if you don't have permanent papers to be in the US employment will be difficult to obtain and to maintain.
Have you tried getting US government aid? That won't be anything quick and easy to get either.
If this soon to be ex is in Brazil I can't say what you can do about that because I have not a clue about Brazilian laws and child support. Plus, you are living in the US with his children. This certainly is a mess.
If you can't find work then you have two choices:
Put up with this nonsense from this bf
OR
Go back to Brazil
Well.....if you don't have permanent papers to be in the US employment will be difficult to obtain and to maintain.
Have you tried getting US government aid? That won't be anything quick and easy to get either.
If this soon to be ex is in Brazil I can't say what you can do about that because I have not a clue about Brazilian laws and child support. Plus, you are living in the US with his children. This certainly is a mess.
If you can't find work then you have two choices:
Put up with this nonsense from this bf
OR
Go back to Brazil
Are you not divorced yet?
Where is this soon to be ex? US or Brazil?
Are you asking should you ignore the ex or the current bf?
Where is this soon to be ex? US or Brazil?
Are you asking should you ignore the ex or the current bf?
im straigh here and i dont wanna go back to brasil .. i lost my job so im still applying on places ! my ex only helps when he wants too our divorce is on process still so i have to wait. should i just ignore him ? or what can i do ??
"am i asking for too much?"..... Well, you aren't asking too much, however, you are asking the impossible.......Wanting someone to change when he apparently doesn't want to.
You need to get more independent. Do you have any job training at all? Can you not apply for government aid? Of course none of this will be possible if you aren't legally residing in the US. The other option is for you to return to Brazil with your children. Do you have family that can help you in Brazil? Can you not seek child support from your ex husband?
The ONLY person that can change him is HIM. All the love you have in the world for him will NOT change him if he doesn't want change. You hanging on and sticking around isn't going to change him. As you know already begging and pleading doesn't help either.
I still think he wants out of this relationship based on his actions and what he is saying to you. If you all have only been living together a year and a half and he is already doing this that's saying a lot.
The ONLY person that can change him is HIM. All the love you have in the world for him will NOT change him if he doesn't want change. You hanging on and sticking around isn't going to change him. As you know already begging and pleading doesn't help either.
I still think he wants out of this relationship based on his actions and what he is saying to you. If you all have only been living together a year and a half and he is already doing this that's saying a lot.
i do depend on him financially .. he also takes care of my kids from a privious marriage, we have been living together for a year and a half now .. i love him so much i just cant let it go i keep thinking things will change but deep down i dont think so !
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What do you mean by pet names? Does he call females 'honey' or something? Some men do this without it meaning anything. But if he calls them baby or hot stuff or my little love bug (??? sorry, was trying to come up with some as I'm not a big fan of goofy names for one's partner like bunny or whatever--- got a friend who is this mature, career woman that calls her grown adult husband her bunny . . . =o/ ).
I don't think though that I'd put up with a man that didn't treat me with respect and that seems to be what you keep getting at with him. ugh.
I don't think though that I'd put up with a man that didn't treat me with respect and that seems to be what you keep getting at with him. ugh.
A bf......pff.....All this for a bf?
Do you have no where else to go? This is no environment for a child or children that's for sure. Do you work meaning are you independent from this man? I can't see any other reason why you would be taking all this from him unless you are dependent on him financially.
Do you have no where else to go? This is no environment for a child or children that's for sure. Do you work meaning are you independent from this man? I can't see any other reason why you would be taking all this from him unless you are dependent on him financially.
More than ok to do that in America? I don't think so.
Honey, why are you continuing to let this man belittle you/make of fool of you?
Why are you still dealing with this guy? Is he a bf or a husband?
Honey, why are you continuing to let this man belittle you/make of fool of you?
Why are you still dealing with this guy? Is he a bf or a husband?
today he confessed to me he calls other woman pet names it crushed me .. his excuse is that in america is more than okay to do this ..( im brazilian by the way ) and he told me he doesnt care if i call other guys pet names i can fuc kin believe this !! he said i have to stop trippin
On October 9 I posted this:
"You not being able to trust him and constantly worried if he is playing games with you, etc...........that's no relationship nor is it any way to live.
Sounds like you need to end things with him and move on."
I still suggest you do that.
Sounds like he has already checked out of the relationship.......he wants out in my opinion. He's doing this in a passive way though.
"You not being able to trust him and constantly worried if he is playing games with you, etc...........that's no relationship nor is it any way to live.
Sounds like you need to end things with him and move on."
I still suggest you do that.
Sounds like he has already checked out of the relationship.......he wants out in my opinion. He's doing this in a passive way though.
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