am i selfish ?

[neovo]

I've posted here before about the situation my bf and me were having... we sortof worked things out but lately it's going bad again. he told me i was being selfish cuz whenever i study i ignore him. i tokesummer courses and he didn't. i jsut dont' wnt to spend 3 months doing nothing but jsut goign out everyday, watching movies, clubbing, etc. i want to be productive and i liek to be educated as much as i can while i'm still young. I know i'm not tha smartest so i need to split my courses evenly, instead of cramming 6 courses into one semester, i take 4 courses each semester so i can handle it better and get better grades. when i tell my bf i need to study i jsut stay at home and study, i dont' go out with my friends or make other plans, i jsut stay home. yet he said i'm being selfish and nto giving him enough attention. i study for one or two days in two to three weeks the rest of the time i give it all to hm! my family and frds dislike him and i'm stressed enough with that being a constant issue. yet now he has some problemw ith my eduation, shouldn't he be responible enough to kwno that when it's study time to leave someone alone ? it's nto like i totally ignore him i phone and talk to him during my break tiem when i'm studying. i just dont' kwno what to do ....

[imanaddict]

First I want to commend you for being such a responsible young adult! You are right, your education DOES need to come before partying, movies, etc. You should also leave a little room for fun too. You have your priorities together and don't let him get you down because of it.

[SweetiePie411]

You are not being selfish and don't let him keep telling you you are. All you want is to have a good education and he obviously doesn't like that. Don't let him slow you down. Being selfish would be if you only cared about yourself, which you do care about him too. He obviously doesn't know what selfish means and he is just being immature about the whole thing. He should actually be studying himself and he should start worrying about his education. Education is an important aspect of life. You need it to get a good job, which leads to having a successful life. I think you have a good head on your shoulders. Just keep studying girl! I know this may be hard, but I suggest finding someone else. It just seems like he is gonna keep trying to slow you down in life and do you really want that? What is more important, your education or your boyfriend? That's pretty much what it all comes down to. I wish you the best of luck for whatever you decide!

[treazzure007]

he needs to be studying himself.  2 educated people will have more success and more vacations and fun in the long run.  tell him that

[jo929]

If he loved you he would want to see you get an education because that is what it takes to get by in this worl nowdays a good education if he does not want that let him go if he cares he will come around also he needs to concentrate on his education  luck  jo,

[Judy246]

It sounds like your bf has insecurities and is needy. Your education comes first. Talk with him and work out a plan where you can spend some time with him, yet completely focus on your studies. Do not permit him to come between you and your future career, because if anything happens to the relationship, you have earned your education and that is something that no one can take away from you Also, if he continues with this imature behavior, it will be necessary for you to re-evaluate your relationship....good luck.

[vmvnpv]

Is this a relationship you really want to be in?  He sounds controlling and selfish himself.  If he truly cared about you he would push you to get the best grades you can so you are better off when you graduate.  Maybe he's jealous because he's not in school.  Or scared that because you'll have an education and he won't that maybe you'll leave because you'll think he's stupid or something.  Sit down and talk to him.  Ask him what's really going on.  If he continues acting like he is the best thing would be to walk away.