communication

[emmy010]

So im 10 weeks pregnant my emotions are going crazy me and my boy friend also the father of my unborn child are fighting like crazy..i can assum and believe anything i try to talk to him he gets angry and i get upset so i talk to a friend and my boy friend over hears and said he will no longer talk about our issues and my pregnancy because hes not the last person i should run to which i understand..but how do i communicate with someone thats closed minded do i just hold my thought in..i might really go crazy then.. Any advise?

[jojo_bean]

I kinda have the same issue, but I have been getting upset over everything, little and big, I'm also pregnant first trimester, I just yell at him, and try to talk to him by staying calm but he just says I'm bitching all the time, but I let it roll off and the letter idea is great it let's me express my feeling without having to go to someone else which I still do on occasion, but I stoped doing the letters a while ago but I need to start up again, just know your emotions can get way out of wack and your boyfriend still wants to feel like the man and yelling and arguing over everything makes him feel less of a man because he knows he did something wrong and he will defend himself even know he knows he did something wrong. Just stay strong and I know its hard but try not to let things stress you its bad for the baby and you, and if u don't get upset about something, he'll think what the heck because he likes attention good or bad.. hope it gets better honey..

[bunniiebaybii]

Some men are actually scared of havin a baby no matter how many they have. And then they act out like a child. I know what u r feelin. The way I got through to my husband and our first was actually very simple. I wrote a letter explaining how I felt about everything. And he actually wrote one back. Sometimes men have a hard time explaining feelings to your face. They think its not in their nature. Also its a good idea to just leave him alone and ignore him when he acts like that. After 1 year of letter writing my husband can talk about anything with me and not shy to tell it to my face. And now its 6 years later and everything is great. Having a relationship takes alot of work. especially a marriage. We went to couples therapy and he refused to talk so she told me to write letters to him. Men are men and sometimes you just have to work with them to get them to open up. Remember its a process and it does take time. And remember not to bug him about it leave it alone and ignore him. Dont expect a letter right away too. Just have let him take his time. Dont picks fights.

[Londres70]

Hmmm, arguing about everything?  I am not sure if this will get worse after the baby is here, but I think so.  Secondly, "closed-minded?"  Does this mean "His way or the highway?"  

Sounds like he is controlling and/or has anger issues.

I would offer the idea of couples' therapy but I doubt he would go.  

Do you all live together?  Sounds like you all need a separation.  This is definitely not good for you or the baby to be put under all this stress/drama.

Without therapy I believe this relationship will become more rocky and/or possibly volatile.  

You can try to seek therapy on your own to help you to sort this out before the baby is here.  

[emmy010]

We argue about everything little and hes very closed minded and hes so excited about the baby that we argue about my own healthy..my emotions r running crazy

[emmy010]

We argue about everything little and hes very closed minded and hes so excited about the baby that we argue about my own healthy..my emotions r running crazy

[Londres70]

Is he happy about the pregnancy?  

What exactly are you arguing about the most?

Has he ever acted like this before when you all disagreed/argued?