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do do women have anal sex??? ADVISE PLS!

mt bf keeps wanting about anal penetration…
I understand that it is tighter and feels better for him.. but it is not pleasurable for me at all… is this normal??? When aroused, it is not too painful, just uncomfortable (after a couple minutes)
Do women enjoy anal sex? Is there something wrong with me? Are we doing it wrong?
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a big part of intimacy is embracing vulnerability… pushing the line to reach more vulnerable situations.
I view anal sex as another step on the ladder of sexual vulnerability/intimacy.


penetration is not just about man & women, vaginal/anal, or skin to skin….
There is also something els going on that is extremely intimate.,
When penetrated sexually by another person (penis, dildo, finger, etc….), you are allowing someone to enter you in a very sensual way (even if it is with a dildo)… the other person is controlling how fast, hard, deep, etc…
It allows you to be vulnerable and trusting with that person…. Knowing that person can hurt you (by being too rough).. but they dont… the penetrator has power over you in the moment,,,
personally speaking… it is that intimacy that makes penetration pleasurable… (its not physically pleasurable without that connection)…
In that situation where you are inviting to be penetrated… embracing your own vulnerability, trusting… etc…  On the other side of it, the penetrator has the power, has been invited to enter, has to be gentle and follow the reactions and body language… feeling a connectedness from doing "it" to the other… rather than with the other (for a lack of words)…
being exposed to such an extent can be very arousing…

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You can try posting in the Sexual Health forum too.
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I do not have the answer to Your question as I have never attempted this.
I said there are women who enjoy this because this topic has come up on these forums before and some women have professed to enjoy this.  When this topic comes up it creates a lot of activity, so I would advise You to keep watching.  You will likely hear from someone who will be able to specifically answer this for You
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ok- so there are women who truly enjoy it..?? & find it pleasureful?
is it possible to do it in a way that is more enjoyable (other rhan the lube and arousal)???
I want to give him what he wants and like what he likes… is this even possible?
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There's nothing wrong with you dear.  

Some women enjoy this and others don't.......a preference thing.  
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YES!!  You are normal.  There is nothing wrong with You for not enjoying this!!  I understand there are Women who submit to this, apparently there are even Women who enjoy do this.  But there are many of us who Do Not, Will Not, even consider this.  

A man should experience pentetration anally HimSelf, and only then decide if He would ask His Lady to do this.  And if She declines the subject should not arise again unless She brings it up.  If a Woman is uninterested She should not be expected to participate.  (My guess:  I'll bet He wouldn't want an erect penis there)
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