dont know what to do anymore

[panderation]

Hello recently my partner just keeps geting angry at me for all little things and keeps saying its all my fault that im doing everything wrong his two kids from another relationship are staying with us for a week I also have a new baby im 18 hes 23 but when he when to collect them I had to clean the whole house but I needed to go to the shop but I wasnt back by 5 when its there dinner time so he blamed me because I wasnt there to cook it because I had to go to the shop he keeps blaming me for everything and keeps shouting at me infront of his kids he says I shoudent be tired because hes looking after the kids when all hes doing is siting on his xbox and im doing everything else aswell as looking after are new baby he also keeps threatning to hit and leave me and take my baby with him or once after an argument because I didnt make his tea when he asked for it because I was cleaning he went to storm out and said when I get back u better be gone but after every argument he says hes sorry and how much he loves me but then about an hour after he goes and does it all over again I also have no friends because he drove them away and said he doesnt like my friends so I cant see them  hes also if I want to go on the xbox I have to play with people he know and that he will let me play with he says its because his ex cheated on him with a guy he new off of the xbox but after 2 years I though he would trust me he says he trust me just not everyone else on there I dont know if im just being silly

[Londres70]

Oh my heavens.  You need to leave and pronto.  This is nothing more than abuse.  

Agree with the above posters.

[nursegirl6572]

I think you already know the answers to your questions, they're just tough to admit.

This situation is VERY unhealthy for you, but also (and most importantly) your baby.  Your baby deserves better than to be raised in an environment of abuse.  Also, like Tink said, the abuse WILL progress, don't think it won't.  You describe a textbook pattern of abuse.  Your job as a mother now is to protect your child at all costs, even if that means protecting him/her from their own father.

Get out now, cut your losses while you can, go home and rebuild your life without him as your partner.  Now, unfortunately, you will be bound to him forever because of your child.  Make sure you seek legal counsel as to the best way to proceed.  The lawyer needs to know about the abuse.

I hope you find the strength and courage to leave ASAP.  Best to you.

[Chima7]

If social services is already involved with his other kids the. WHY would you not be running as far away from him as possible?? He is BAD news and it really doesn't matter if you love him because he doesn't love you back and never will, not like how you lobe him. He is the worst person in the world and I feel sorry for your child that he/she has to grow up with such a jerk as a father.

[TTinKKerBBell]

Panderation,
There doesn't exist enough stress to justify His mistreatment of You.

I agree with Chima regards Your Baby.
You and He are modeling behavior to Your Baby - Children learn to give or receive abuse from what They experience in ChildHoods.  No matter how 'adult' We become the Child exists within our subconscious forevermore.  There is a "reason" why He is abuse; there is a "reason" why You tolerate it.

Love is not an emotion that We have no control over.  Love is a CHOICE.  We really can (and should) make an intellectual choice on who We will/will not love, make our Futures and our Children with.   We do good when we make good CHOICES.

(You are not being "stupid" (Your word not mine), rather You are making a poor CHOICE.

GoodLuck

[panderation]

Sadly he has to talk to her because of his kids but me and her have never been good I tride to get along for the kids sake but when I was pregnant she wished my baby dead because she still loves him and regrets what she did I try to understand that hes stressed because social services are involed with his other kids but I know it me being stupid but I do really love him all I try to do is make him happy but its never good enough he always compares me to his ex with what she did

[Chima7]

You're not married, correct? Then what you do is take your baby and go home to your parents. This Boy you have chosen as a baby daddy is an abusive, selfish, and dangerous person who will hurt you very badly and maybe even your little baby. If you don't want to leave for yourself, then do it for your baby. The poor thing is going to grow up thinking this kind of thing is normal and you need to prevent that from happening!

Go home to your parents and then go see a lawyer about a custody agreement because this relationship is over and there's nothing you can do to change this guy so there's no point in trying.

[TTinKKerBBell]

P.S.
and is He still talking to His ex girlfriend all the time?

[TTinKKerBBell]

This kind of abuse does not get better with time, it only progresses.  Any man(?) who will verbally threaten to hit You will one day actually hit You.  Leave before that happens.  Go home to Your parents.  Your Friends will probably welcome You back.  They probably realized things about Him that You were unable to see.  "Love is Blind" means we don't 'want' to see the red flags that are always there if we would pay attention to these things with our Eyes Wide Open.  Often women don't see what is right in front of Them.  We are so "in love" with the idea of being "in love" that we don't see what we don't want to see.  Never a good idea.
No one here can offer You solutions to "fix" this.  His "threats" aren't about You or what You do - the threats are about HIM and who HE is!!  Hitting a woman is NEVER a solution, nor should it EVER be threatened.  HE has to change His behaviors and You shouldn't return until IF and WHEN He has done that.  Don't fall for "I'm sorry" - words are cheap and can be meaningless, it's His BEHAVIOR that You need to walk away from.

Why did His first marriage fail?  It might behoove You to educate YourSelf about that.